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Title: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: Emaline on June 22, 2008, 11:16:07 PM
Ok. This is a long story, but I'll do my best to make it concise. Basically, I need people's advice on what they think I should/can do...

I live in a student apartment with two other girls, one of them is my good friend Sarah who I've known for 4 years. We each have our own bedroom. It is expensive to live here, but the apartment is nice and I love having my own space.

Last January, one of my roommates moved out. Because it's an on-campus apartment, she had to find someone to take her room. She found a girl I'll call K to take her room. OK, whatever, as long as we don't get stuck paying for the room, right?

Since K moved in, she's made living in the apartment kind of a nightmare. K eats our food, uses our stuff (such as hairbrushes, my razor, my Hello Kitty bathrobe, etc.) When confronted, she usually lies about what she's done unless you stick there and ask her. It's getting and still is annoying.

In late May, I spent the night at my boyfriend's and came back the next morning to shower. I found a tissue covered in makeup on my desk, knowing it wasn't mine or Sarah's. When I asked K about it, we got into a big screaming fight and she threatened me, saying "you'll be sorry."

I reported the incident to Res Life, and we were supposed to have a meeting to sit down and talk stuff out, all three of us and Res Life. But we're all busy and we can't find a time to do it, not to mention the Res Life coordinator isn't around all that much to actually do it. I'm also cynical, thinking it's not going to help much.

Things keep getting worse. Last night, K and a friend were in our living room, making a ruckus at 4 am. I had to get up at 6:30 for work. When I stumbled out and asked them to please be quiet, her friend bitched me out, saying that I should have gone to sleep earlier. Not the brightest crayon in the box, but whatever.

I can't stand living with K, but I love the apartment too much to give it up. Sarah isn't getting along with her either. Sarah and I get along fine. I want K to leave, and I don't think Sarah or I should have to. I really don't know what to do and I'm at my wit's end.

Does anyone have any advice? I thank anyone who has read through to this point and I welcome your opinions.
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: angryinch on June 22, 2008, 11:26:52 PM
You both need to sit down with her and without it turning into a big bitch fest, just say that you are both unhappy about the way the house has been running since she's moved in. Try and compromise. If it's not too late, sit down as a group and make a list of house rules to ensure house harmony. If she bitches about that, just suggest she move out if she can't abide by the house rules. Tell her it's affecting your studies and you're sick of her using your stuff and eating your food.

Don't put up with it or you'll go mad!
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: Junkyard Willie on June 23, 2008, 12:43:23 AM
It's too late for talking, put a weapon or a joint in her room and have res life do an inspection.  Not enough to get her arrested but enough to get her kicked out.  Then find out where she lives and send her a postcard that says "OMG, who's sorry now, LMAO!!"
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: imaginary friend on June 23, 2008, 12:03:09 PM
I reported the incident to Res Life, and we were supposed to have a meeting to sit down and talk stuff out, all three of us and Res Life. But we're all busy and we can't find a time to do it, not to mention the Res Life coordinator isn't around all that much to actually do it. I'm also cynical, thinking it's not going to help much.

Does anyone have any advice? I thank anyone who has read through to this point and I welcome your opinions.

If you'd been born and raised here in the Detroit area, you would've already kicked her ass...but, since you weren't and you haven't, talk to the ResLife coordinator. Alone if it's allowed - the squeaky wheel gets the grease and all that.

jdfu!
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: Emaline on June 23, 2008, 01:26:03 PM
I reported the incident to Res Life, and we were supposed to have a meeting to sit down and talk stuff out, all three of us and Res Life. But we're all busy and we can't find a time to do it, not to mention the Res Life coordinator isn't around all that much to actually do it. I'm also cynical, thinking it's not going to help much.

Does anyone have any advice? I thank anyone who has read through to this point and I welcome your opinions.

If you'd been born and raised here in the Detroit area, you would've already kicked her ass...but, since you weren't and you haven't, talk to the ResLife coordinator. Alone if it's allowed - the squeaky wheel gets the grease and all that.

jdfu!

I already did that, and I said I wanted her to leave, and the Res Life coordinator told me he refused to do any group meetings unless I was open-minded. I tried to be, and K is a bitch. So yeah...
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: Molotovna on June 23, 2008, 01:38:09 PM
If you'd been born and raised here in the Detroit area, you would've already kicked her ass...but, since you weren't and you haven't, talk to the ResLife coordinator. Alone if it's allowed - the squeaky wheel gets the grease and all that.

jdfu!

 ;D ;D
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: doritojoe89 on June 23, 2008, 02:05:42 PM
wow i'm moving to an apartment in two weeks when i start college....

the girl i'm moving in with , well i kinda barely know...lol  and we're gonna be sharing a bathroom

i hope this doesn't happen to us..
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: ☮zombiepianist☮ on June 23, 2008, 06:09:10 PM
oooh, what college?
it must not be a strict college because it's letting a boy and a girl stay in the same apartment, lol.
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: yosmark on June 23, 2008, 08:11:31 PM
It's too late for talking, put a weapon or a joint in her room and have res life do an inspection.  Not enough to get her arrested but enough to get her kicked out.  Then find out where she lives and send her a postcard that says "OMG, who's sorry now, LMAO!!"

My idea was to burn all of her things, but Bill´s idea is better hahaha.

You can also tell her this next thing "Bitch, we voted, you have to leave the apartment 2 against 1"

Or just talk very quiet with her explain what bothers until she understands.
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: dangerpants on June 24, 2008, 02:35:31 AM
oooh, what college?
it must not be a strict college because it's letting a boy and a girl stay in the same apartment, lol.


...apartments aren't usually 1) on campus, or 2) owned by schools. Some have "apartments," but they're really dorms... Just more expensive.
I'm assuming dJ89 is actually renting a real apartment that is not affiliated except by proximity (read: in same town) to any universities or colleges.
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: doritojoe89 on June 24, 2008, 01:22:50 PM
oooh, what college?
it must not be a strict college because it's letting a boy and a girl stay in the same apartment, lol.


...apartments aren't usually 1) on campus, or 2) owned by schools. Some have "apartments," but they're really dorms... Just more expensive.
I'm assuming dJ89 is actually renting a real apartment that is not affiliated except by proximity (read: in same town) to any universities or colleges.

ding ding ding!! correct!!  i guess i should have been more specific.. it's off campus and not tied to the school or it's policies.. it's The University of Montevallo..  "Alabama's Public Liberal Arts College"
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: imaginary friend on June 24, 2008, 01:37:58 PM
I reported the incident to Res Life, and we were supposed to have a meeting to sit down and talk stuff out, all three of us and Res Life. But we're all busy and we can't find a time to do it, not to mention the Res Life coordinator isn't around all that much to actually do it. I'm also cynical, thinking it's not going to help much.

Does anyone have any advice? I thank anyone who has read through to this point and I welcome your opinions.

If you'd been born and raised here in the Detroit area, you would've already kicked her ass...but, since you weren't and you haven't, talk to the ResLife coordinator. Alone if it's allowed - the squeaky wheel gets the grease and all that.

jdfu!

I already did that, and I said I wanted her to leave, and the Res Life coordinator told me he refused to do any group meetings unless I was open-minded. I tried to be, and K is a bitch. So yeah...

Go over the ResLife person's head.

jdfu!
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: Brittany on June 27, 2008, 12:18:20 PM
Pretend to be open-minded, and make room to schedule that meeting.

It may help to talk to a school psychologist and tell them that it's causing you severe anxiety or depression, as well as interfering with your school work.  Make sure your other roommate does the same, so they don't just relocate you.

Sabotage your stuff.  Spray some acidic agent into your razor, replace your orange juice with lemon juice, bake cookies with too much baking soda, etc.
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: Brittany on June 27, 2008, 03:05:54 PM
I also should add that we recently had a horrible roommate.  Worse than yours, believe it or not.  We were all forced to take our personal belongings out of the bathroom and the central part of the house and put them in our personal spots, slightly hidden.  If you can get a lock put on your door, do it.  It's not fair, and it isn't comfortable, but at least you'll stop her from touching your things.

Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: J_Beck on June 27, 2008, 03:38:19 PM
Pretend to be open-minded, and make room to schedule that meeting.

It may help to talk to a school psychologist and tell them that it's causing you severe anxiety or depression, as well as interfering with your school work.  Make sure your other roommate does the same, so they don't just relocate you.

Sabotage your stuff.  Spray some acidic agent into your razor, replace your orange juice with lemon juice, bake cookies with too much baking soda, etc.

hmmmm lemon juice, I would be jumping for joy if that happened to me, throw in a touch of sugar and a tiny bit of water to dilute slightly. There's nothing like hard-core sour lemonade
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: imaginary friend on June 27, 2008, 06:56:21 PM
Pretend to be open-minded, and make room to schedule that meeting.

It may help to talk to a school psychologist and tell them that it's causing you severe anxiety or depression, as well as interfering with your school work.  Make sure your other roommate does the same, so they don't just relocate you.

Sabotage your stuff.  Spray some acidic agent into your razor, replace your orange juice with lemon juice, bake cookies with too much baking soda, etc.

hmmmm lemon juice, I would be jumping for joy if that happened to me, throw in a touch of sugar and a tiny bit of water to dilute slightly. There's nothing like hard-core sour lemonade

Okay...replace the oj with piss, then. :glasses9:

jdfu!
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: Junkyard Willie on June 28, 2008, 12:52:35 AM
Clean piss for the probation officer, SCORE!

Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: caddy on June 28, 2008, 01:01:38 AM
i am extremely confrontational and mean when it comes to people touching my stuff (read - territorial). i would have said some shit to make her hit me, and then claim that she attacked me. i would rather have a bruise, and have her out of there, than stay pretty (lmao), and have her there.

and if that doesn't work, kill her and eat the body. i can sympathize, because i went through some terrible roommate situations myself. i just moved out, because most times it was them against me, and most times i wasn't there (i just came to sleep), and they were either loud, stupid, or fucking their boyfriends while i could have been sleeping. ~rolls eyes~ but eh...none this bad.

just kill her.
Title: Re: Roommate Drama (I can't save it for my mama)
Post by: RatsRGods on June 29, 2008, 07:07:29 PM
Shit on her bed.