I dislike the religious connotations of marriage. I also extremely dislike getting told that I need to marry my honey simply because I live with him. I think most people dislike the idea of marriage, purely because others request it for them, rather than they request it for themselves. Hell, we've already had one girl on here say that she feels like she HAS to marry someone of her same religion, due to the guilt it has imposed upon her. You shouldn't need to feel that way, but a high volume of people still do.
Not to mention that sometimes you just do NOT want to marry into your partner's family. I'm sorry, but regardless of how much I like them, doesn't mean I want in-laws that probably won't ever accept me.
Here's another issue besides religious affiliation. Race. Most people just don't want to get married, due to them marrying into a family that is never going to accept them, due to their race. My honey's family is almost pure white Irish, and extremely proud of their lineage. I am not white, nor Irish. Marriages, especially where you have families of that nature, also encourage child rearing, and it's hard to want to rear your mixed child around a bunch of people who are going to hate them, purely due to their mixed blood. Therefore, if you abstain from marriage, you're usually rid of the stigma of children that goes along with it.
Another good reason to abhor marriage. Finances. Getting married is expensive, and it's not even FOR you. If a wedding ceremony was truly for those getting married, then their friends and family would all chip in and pay for it for them. In richer families, yes, the parents pay for the wedding for them. In middle class families, people save up, sometimes for years, before them have their "dream wedding" with that super expensive dress that THEY WILL NEVER, EVER WEAR AGAIN. You pay all that money, you feed these jerks, and they give you a toaster as a wedding gift. Lol wut?
Not to mention having to bind your names to legal documents. Yes, there are people who are fighting like mad to achieve this status, and have their woes, and this is why I fully support gay marriage. It's not fair that they can't experience the same hell that married couples seem to go through.
I know this last one seems harsh, but it's very, very true. Especially if you never have any desire to have children. No messy attachments. Let's face it, not everybody is going to last as long as their grandparents. 50-year anniversaries are a thing of the past, when men and women were truly taught to stick together until the very, painful end. Now you don't HAVE to stick to your mate. You don't have to rely on them for bills and finances, or even your livelihood. If you split after so many years, and the only thing you shared is a house and some bills, I think that makes things cleaner and easier. I know several people right now struggling to get out of a marriage, but can't due to lack of negotiation and understanding. It's already a hellish ride breaking up with somebody. Now imagine having to get a lawyer, and split everything 50-50, and seeing them on weekends with the kids and their new beau, and all that nasty baggage.
It's no longer an appetizing fantasy for many people, which is why you're getting the cynicism. Marriage has outgrown it's usefulness in their world, and for most middle class people marriage = settling down, building a family, and getting bad credit. I don't think the large majority of s.boxers are ready to settle down and resign the rest of their lives to relying on stability over excitement and the fun/fear of the unknown.
But I am sorry you feel that way. I've actually never seen one person that I've known throughout my entire life experience a happy marriage that lasted for a long time. Hence my opinion.