I'm-a get maaaarried xD I wasn't because I was like, well, if I can't marry a woman then I'm not marrying a man, that's just not fair. But now Quakers have authorised same-sex marriages! I mean like MARRIAGES, not civil partnerships - you're married in the eyes of God, which is what I think matters (don't shoot me down, atheists, it's just what matters to me!). The idea of being joined as one sort of person in the eyes of God, as having one person that you're happy to be with forever, is a really excellent, exciting idea. It's not my life's goal to get married - I'd be happy enough not to, and happy enough to live my life single, but the fact that marriage is now an option for me whatever partner I have makes me feel so much happier about things.
I like the way you think.
I personally dislike the idea of getting married, though. I can appreciate the fact that it binds you to someone you love...but you never know what's going to happen. Sometimes it seems like people take it too lightly...I think that if you're going to get married, you should be saying to the person that you're marrying that you will try harder than you would if you weren't getting married...That you're more willing to try and overcome all the fights and things...to really try and keep it together. I wouldn't get married unless I was completely certain that I could stand being around my partner and all their bad habits...if I felt that I would be able to let go of almost any arguments we may have and...not exactly give up all my pride...but be willing to compromise it...Am I making sense?
Anyway, I've not witnessed many marriages actually working out like that with my own eyes.
Plus, the whole idea seems to have been cheapened in recent times. Celebrities go out and get married and break up days (or less) later and it's a pretty common sitcom script.
Another reason I don't like the idea of getting married is that even in spite of all my beliefs about the above...Even if you do wait for ages and ages, and really believe in what you're doing, we can all be wrong about these things. And then you have to face a divorce and you have to pay and pay and fill out forms and things...just to tell someone that you don't think you can spend the rest of your life with them anymore.
All that said...It is wonderful and happy when I hear that friends or relatives are engaged. They wouldn't be if they didn't believe in it and it's nice to help celebrate a new chapter in the life of someone you care about with the person they love.
I just don't believe in it for myself.
I have time to change my mind, though, I guess.
I shouldn't have bothered. I can't seem to type my thoughts out particularly coherently lately.