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[Andy Pants]

I have nothing against people that want to get married. It is a personal choice. All I am trying to say is that to defend marriage for legal reasons or benefits & rights is not what marriage is or should be about.

Did you read my first two responses to the question?

[SomewhatDamaged]

I have nothing against people that want to get married. It is a personal choice. All I am trying to say is that to defend marriage for legal reasons or benefits & rights is not what marriage is or should be about.

Did you read my first two responses to the question?

No I blindly replied 

If you read my posts at all you would understand that i'm trying to say that to get married for legal or benefit reasons is lame & not what marriage is all about. It is also restrictive & discriminatory.

[Indja]

I'm-a get maaaarried xD I wasn't because I was like, well, if I can't marry a woman then I'm not marrying a man, that's just not fair. But now Quakers have authorised same-sex marriages! I mean like MARRIAGES, not civil partnerships - you're married in the eyes of God, which is what I think matters (don't shoot me down, atheists, it's just what matters to me!). The idea of being joined as one sort of person in the eyes of God, as having one person that you're happy to be with forever, is a really excellent, exciting idea. It's not my life's goal to get married - I'd be happy enough not to, and happy enough to live my life single, but the fact that marriage is now an option for me whatever partner I have makes me feel so much happier about things.

[Mr. Leave Me Alone]

I'm-a get maaaarried xD I wasn't because I was like, well, if I can't marry a woman then I'm not marrying a man, that's just not fair. But now Quakers have authorised same-sex marriages! I mean like MARRIAGES, not civil partnerships - you're married in the eyes of God, which is what I think matters (don't shoot me down, atheists, it's just what matters to me!). The idea of being joined as one sort of person in the eyes of God, as having one person that you're happy to be with forever, is a really excellent, exciting idea. It's not my life's goal to get married - I'd be happy enough not to, and happy enough to live my life single, but the fact that marriage is now an option for me whatever partner I have makes me feel so much happier about things.

I like the way you think.

I personally dislike the idea of getting married, though. I can appreciate the fact that it binds you to someone you love...but you never know what's going to happen. Sometimes it seems like people take it too lightly...I think that if you're going to get married, you should be saying to the person that you're marrying that you will try harder than you would if you weren't getting married...That you're more willing to try and overcome all the fights and things...to really try and keep it together. I wouldn't get married unless I was completely certain that I could stand being around my partner and all their bad habits...if I felt that I would be able to let go of almost any arguments we may have and...not exactly give up all my pride...but be willing to compromise it...Am I making sense?
Anyway, I've not witnessed many marriages actually working out like that with my own eyes.
Plus, the whole idea seems to have been cheapened in recent times. Celebrities go out and get married and break up days (or less) later and it's a pretty common sitcom script.
Another reason I don't like the idea of getting married is that even in spite of all my beliefs about the above...Even if you do wait for ages and ages, and really believe in what you're doing, we can all be wrong about these things. And then you have to face a divorce and you have to pay and pay and fill out forms and things...just to tell someone that you don't think you can spend the rest of your life with them anymore.

All that said...It is wonderful and happy when I hear that friends or relatives are engaged. They wouldn't be if they didn't believe in it and it's nice to help celebrate a new chapter in the life of someone you care about with the person they love.
I just don't believe in it for myself.

I have time to change my mind, though, I guess.

I shouldn't have bothered. I can't seem to type my thoughts out particularly coherently lately.

[JohnnyDBBUK]

love?
publicity?
love of publicity?

[Andy Pants]

Look you're all missing the point entirely, clearly the answer has something to do with people needing green-cards.

[Breschau]

I reckon it's down to a deep-seated need to gain a mother-in-law.

[Pope Totalfrog]

I reckon it's down to a deep-seated need to gain a mother-in-law.

No one is that much of a masochist.

[CeeGBee]

I reckon it's down to a deep-seated need to gain a mother-in-law.

No one is that much of a masochist.

Sadly, our world is home to some truly sick people....

[jumpcut]

I reckon it's down to a deep-seated need to gain a mother-in-law.

No one is that much of a masochist.

Sadly, our world is home to some truly sick people....

My mother-in-law is awesome. Seriously! Now it may help that she lives across the country so we only see her twice a year but she really is a cool lady. I wish we could see her more often, actually.

[Indja]

I reckon it's down to a deep-seated need to gain a mother-in-law.

No one is that much of a masochist.

Sadly, our world is home to some truly sick people....

My mother-in-law is awesome. Seriously! Now it may help that she lives across the country so we only see her twice a year but she really is a cool lady. I wish we could see her more often, actually.

I don't have a mother-in-law, but all the mums I know are awesome so there must only be a very small percentage of evil ones who then go on to become evil mother-in-laws...

[CeeGBee]

I reckon it's down to a deep-seated need to gain a mother-in-law.

No one is that much of a masochist.

Sadly, our world is home to some truly sick people....

My mother-in-law is awesome. Seriously! Now it may help that she lives across the country so we only see her twice a year but she really is a cool lady. I wish we could see her more often, actually.

I don't have a mother-in-law, but all the mums I know are awesome so there must only be a very small percentage of evil ones who then go on to become evil mother-in-laws...

That's only because, as they know you now, you're not trying to steal their
son and turn the lad against his deal ol' mum.

[Indja]

I reckon it's down to a deep-seated need to gain a mother-in-law.

No one is that much of a masochist.

Sadly, our world is home to some truly sick people....

My mother-in-law is awesome. Seriously! Now it may help that she lives across the country so we only see her twice a year but she really is a cool lady. I wish we could see her more often, actually.

I don't have a mother-in-law, but all the mums I know are awesome so there must only be a very small percentage of evil ones who then go on to become evil mother-in-laws...

That's only because, as they know you now, you're not trying to steal their
son and turn the lad against his deal ol' mum.

Does that mean the mothers of ugly people are always really nice? because they know no-one's trying to steal their kid?

[CeeGBee]

See?  It's that kinda thinkin'.....

As any mum will tell you, whatever his seeming flaws, her son has an interior
quality that makes him a real catch....

[Indja]

I refuse to be this sort of mother.

Luckily, a quick scan of my current family reassures me that, unless something horrible goes on with my daddy-choosing, I should be pretty set xD As my cousin Hesther is fond of saying, We Owens Is GORGEOUS.