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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #165 on: October 12, 2010, 08:41:22 PM »

Indja - the more desperate these sad old spinsters are, the more they will pay. You are sitting on a goldmine.

Also I don't think the word spinster is used enough these days. It is a perfectly good word.
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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #166 on: October 12, 2010, 08:55:54 PM »

Indja - the more desperate these sad old spinsters are, the more they will pay. You are sitting on a goldmine.

Also I don't think the word spinster is used enough these days. It is a perfectly good word.
Yes and yes. It makes me think of witches for some reason.

My mom's coworker married a guy she knew for 4 months because she was so desperate. Now she's trying to get pregnant, but she has ADHD, epilepsy, and bipolar disorder. Mayyyyybe she should consider adopting...
My cousin had a seizure while she was pregnant (which the doctor told her NOT to do), and now her son has severe autism. Hooray ,irresponsibility!
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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #167 on: October 13, 2010, 05:55:36 AM »

In this day in age it does seem quite presumptuous of society to assume that a person requires a licensed procedure to nominate who is important enough to see them in an emergency. I personally can’t be bothered with romantic relationships but why should that rule out people, with whom I might have other emotional ties, from taking a concern in me if I'm ill? What about bachelor and bacheloress? If you prick us do we not bleed? Do I need to marry a friend simply to have comfort in my hour of need? Perhaps I’ll head the a-romantic frontline…  ;D Seriously though, at work they usually just ask for an emergency contact number... Simple and costs me nothing.

On a different note: Earlier today I was flicking through tv channels and caught a bit of marriage trivia. I've not verified this yet but it was announced that arranged marriages have the same success/failure rate as chosen marriages. I'm not sure what to make of that - maybe there's a study.
You can nominate anyone you like to be in charge of your care in an emergency. You need something called a living will that gives decision making powers to the person you choose.

Fair enough if it's free to create (I've never looked into it). An emergency contact number is about as complicated as it needs to be for my foreseeable circumstances though. 
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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #168 on: October 13, 2010, 06:42:07 AM »

On a different note: Earlier today I was flicking through tv channels and caught a bit of marriage trivia. I've not verified this yet but it was announced that arranged marriages have the same success/failure rate as chosen marriages. I'm not sure what to make of that - maybe there's a study.

It must have changed... when I was in college, the divorce rate for chosen marriages in the states was roughly 50%, and the divorce rate for arranged marriages was something like 15%. I don't remember exactly, but it was a massive difference, and the rate of LOVE (determined by survey, not by test) in marriage was higher in arranged marriages. This could have been because it was done by survey, though, so take that with a grain of salt.
My social psych professor said it was the difference in what they were expecting. The arranged marriages were expecting to have problems, so they were ready for them. Most of their problems weren't really bad because they didn't expect that much of each other. The chosen marriages were expecting everything to be like dating, except suddenly awesomer, so when they ran into problems they didn't know what to do. In arranged marriages that were arranged by parents, the married couple knew their parents expected them to stay together, so they stay together through and through because they want to keep their parents happy. Because their parents expect it, eventually they fall in love.
That's all that I really remember. I couldn't find any reliable sites, but if anyone has access to an online database of psychology journals and studies, plzplzplz?


I would love to write a paper on love and marriage in manga. In a lot of romance manga, a bad, mean, but sex-ay and mysterious man steals away the girls from their home and live with them Beauty and the Beast style. The girls are always confused, because they don't like him for being mean but they think he's swooningly sex-ay. Sometimes they are taken advantage of, but it turns out it's OK and they were meant to be because the girl promised herself to the boy when she was THREE and doesn't remember ("I will be your bride when I grow up!").
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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #169 on: October 13, 2010, 09:52:33 AM »

For all this " I don't understand marriage.  Marriage is stupid. Bleh!"  Wow! A whole lot of folks here sure hate straight marriage but very pro gay-marriage. 

Is it a hipster hater thing?  Hipsters like hating and irony.

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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #170 on: October 13, 2010, 09:55:05 AM »

haha I think it's more that as long as straight people get married, gay people should be allowed to as well. Just because marriage isn't a good thing for some of the users on here, it doesn't mean it's not for everyone.
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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #171 on: October 13, 2010, 05:01:55 PM »

haha I think it's more that as long as straight people get married, gay people should be allowed to as well. Just because marriage isn't a good thing for some of the users on here, it doesn't mean it's not for everyone.

Good for some of the users on here currently I think would be a better use of words.

I wonder how many are under 25?  Or under 30?

They might have a very different point of view in 10-15 years, as happens with many people.  For some people marriage just isn't right for them, others want it right away, most in my experience have started thinking they were in the 1st group and it then made sense when A) they matured, B) met someone they fell for completely.
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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #172 on: January 09, 2011, 09:12:52 PM »

eh, not a big fan of marriage, but that's TOTALLY because i am a bitter, single bitch.

umm, so how 'bout now?

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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #173 on: January 10, 2011, 07:55:15 AM »

eh, not a big fan of marriage, but that's TOTALLY because i am a bitter, single bitch.

umm, so how 'bout now?

;)

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lmao! xD I love finding old posts where Syl's like "mah, I'll never be loved!!" xD

Unlike me, of course, who really WILL never be loved o.O Jks! I'm just grumbling because I'm all broody and want a baby and to be a wife, etc. It comes and goes.
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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #174 on: January 10, 2011, 01:19:45 PM »

I'd love having kids, but I hear you have to go on at least one date first.
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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #175 on: January 11, 2011, 01:56:46 PM »

I'd love having kids, but I hear you have to go on at least one date first.

you could tell the local slags that they can dump their unwanted newborns at your house.   O0

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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #176 on: January 12, 2011, 06:11:40 AM »

to make their fans happy?

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Re: Why do people get married?
« Reply #177 on: January 12, 2011, 07:00:57 AM »

eh, not a big fan of marriage, but that's TOTALLY because i am a bitter, single bitch.

umm, so how 'bout now?

;)

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lol OUCH.
i was such a whiny bitch, lord. thank you all for having put up with me XD

luckily there's no gay marriage yet in italy  ;D
but we have actually mentioned marriage a couple of times.
i guess we just like to think we're going to end up marrying one another, but eh, i think it's really too soon to tell.
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