On a different note: Earlier today I was flicking through tv channels and caught a bit of marriage trivia. I've not verified this yet but it was announced that arranged marriages have the same success/failure rate as chosen marriages. I'm not sure what to make of that - maybe there's a study.
It must have changed... when I was in college, the divorce rate for chosen marriages in the states was roughly 50%, and the divorce rate for arranged marriages was something like 15%. I don't remember exactly, but it was a massive difference, and the rate of LOVE (determined by survey, not by test) in marriage was higher in arranged marriages. This could have been because it was done by survey, though, so take that with a grain of salt.
My social psych professor said it was the difference in what they were expecting. The arranged marriages were expecting to have problems, so they were ready for them. Most of their problems weren't really bad because they didn't expect that much of each other. The chosen marriages were expecting everything to be like dating, except suddenly awesomer, so when they ran into problems they didn't know what to do. In arranged marriages that were arranged by parents, the married couple knew their parents expected them to stay together, so they stay together through and through because they want to keep their parents happy. Because their parents expect it, eventually they fall in love.
That's all that I really remember. I couldn't find any reliable sites, but if anyone has access to an online database of psychology journals and studies, plzplzplz?
I would love to write a paper on love and marriage in manga. In a lot of romance manga, a bad, mean, but sex-ay and mysterious man steals away the girls from their home and live with them Beauty and the Beast style. The girls are always confused, because they don't like him for being mean but they think he's swooningly sex-ay. Sometimes they are taken advantage of, but it turns out it's OK and they were meant to be because the girl promised herself to the boy when she was THREE and doesn't remember ("I will be your bride when I grow up!").