Am I the only person who's uncomfortable with how Amanda got that hickey at the Sydney gig? To me it seemed to be just on the wrong side of sexual assault...I mean, that girl actually left a mark on Amanda's body by performing an uninvited sexual act. That just icks me completely.
I get that Amanda is open and loving and joyful and loves her fans a lot and she just givesgivesgives to us. But there's still a line and, for me, this incident crossed it.
It's not okay because it was girl-on-girl.
It's not okay because Amanda has shown us lots more of her body than just her neck.
It's not okay because it was "all in fun".
It's not okay because the girl was drunk.
It makes me think of the old "AFP is not your bitch" discussion. Amanda is not our bitch in terms of us dictating her artistic direction, and she is also not our bitch in terms of being able to waltz up and do what we like to her body. Sure, hickeys are generally viewed as harmless leftovers from teenage making out. But think a little bit more deeply about what they represent, which is the marking of ownership or territory on someone; it's akin to scrawling "SAM WAS HERE". And Amanda is NOT open season for fans to do that to her!
I'm also uncomfortable with Amanda's reaction and (to quote a friend) "the praise for the spirit in which she took it". I get that she's a professional performer and she didn't want to let this incident get in the way of her doing her job. I also get that she understands this girl is (presumably) a fan and (misguidedly) didn't mean any harm. When it was happening, she handled it beautifully - being nice, trying to laugh it off, saying "she's kind of cute", and then getting on with the song and the rest of the show once the girl had been detached.
But afterwards...I'm not loving the phrase "thrilled yet violated". I do love that Amanda is incredibly strong and I genuinely believe it's possible that she's really not bothered by what happened. But... "violated" is an incredibly emotive word that seems to be a giant flashing indicator in the other direction.
I guess what I'm trying to say is this: Amanda, if you're genuinely cool with this happening, then that's awesome and I'm glad. But if you're not, then I hope that you are brave enough to say so. No one will think any less of you for calling out a fan on bad behaviour. You are not our bitch.
(Disclaimer to all of the above: This is just my opinion. In no way should this be taken as "Amanda must feel this way" etc).