I just read the blog from 2008. Right with steph g about the shouts of love thing. I'm not a musician, but I feel it would piss me off having people yelling shit through my songs as it would suggest they're not paying attention. I'd also find it very creepy, and I've always admired the way Amanda deals with it. Whenever I've met Amanda at shows I've always just sort of quietly said hi and maybe a few other words and got shit signed and tried not to put upon her too much, because I figure it must get quite heavy with whole tours of devoted fans to meet and what have you. At signing desks I've mentioned various songs I've particularly enjoyed of hers, and maybe asked her a quick question or two, and she kissed me once on my birthday, but it was brief and consensual Plus there are always queues and what have you so its usually just a case of "hey nice show, loved the bit where you played this song, can you please sign this thanks have fun". I later read her blog about chest rippings and how she likes it when people talk to her about what her music means to them etc and I wondered if maybe it would have been nicer to say more rather than sounding a bit indifferent, but hey, I figure it's better to underdo it than overdo it. I remember one year I went with a girl who wrote her a letter and gave it to her after the show with some chocolates, and Amanda seemed really flattered by it, so maybe that's one way of getting appreciation out there without getting into her space or time too much.
I'm not really a crazy AFP fan, anyway. I mean I like and respect her, and I like her music, but I certainly don't love her. I also think it's sad that there are people who would seek to abuse the connection Amanda tries to make with her fans, whether they mean to or not. Whether she's a particularly accessible musician or not, she's still a person with boundaries, and most of her fans are still strangers to her. In both of these cases, I wonder if the fans expected her to be okay with it, or if they were just overwhelmed by alcohol or lust or something and forgot to care.
I use to never get in line. Just watch meet-n-greet, and leave.
Like Astica, I had nothing special to say, and just meeting them is so special to many of their fans,
that I wanted to leave the time to those fans, and also to A&B who get so tired when they tour.
A&B can also really change a fan life, in a few seconds. I watch meet-n-greet to see that happen.
Well, they take more than the typical few seconds per fan, but they can sense when a fan needs their support.
And are very good at giving what's needed. Often life-changing for the fan. One of my favorite things about Brian and Amanda,
After several dozen gigs (I live in Boston, and made everything for my first year as a fan (still do)),
Brian bounched over, and said:
"I'm Brian. You're Len Tower. Thanks for being a fan."
"Thanks for performing and caring about your fans."
and he bounched off.
I discussed this all with one of the wise amongst our fellow fans.
And was told I was a boob, and should stand in line.
(said fan is much politer than that, but that what it boiled down to ; - ).
So I do now.
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EDIT: actually, just remembered this one time in....2010? This (quite drunk sounding) girl kept yelling out about how she loved Amanda so much. She must have realised it was annoying people, since she then started apologising at the same time. After about the 5th "AMANDA I LOVE YOU I'M SORRY", Amanda, who was between songs, made some comment along the lines of "wow, it's like we have this whole passive-aggressive relationship I'm not even a part of". Everyone cracked up, and I thought it was a totally good call. The girl kind of shut up after that, but she still had to interrupt both Amanda's songs and speeches in between several times before Amanda even said anything about it, which is way the hell more tolerant than I could ever be
Amanda and Brian respect us, their fans. We should, in return, respect them.