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[Agonistes]

my ipod battery dying as i was riding, for hours, in the car with two very big, liberal democrats.

dont get me wrong.  i wouldnt have preferred teabaggers.  just normal people who hate politics like most polite society.

[CeeGBee]

my ipod battery dying as i was riding, for hours, in the car with two very big, liberal democrats.

dont get me wrong.  i wouldnt have preferred teabaggers.  just normal people who hate politics like most polite society.

I have a terrible habit of agreeing with people with whom I agree about some specific point
before realizing  that it will lead them to believe I'm actually part of their team.....   

[lentower]

I kissed a boy who wasn't seamus. and i'm a bit wobbly drunk, but not to the point of an excuse. And now seamy's coming round because i'm upset and need to talk to him, and I'm scared. and I don't know. I'm in this big scary wobbly gray area where I literally do not know a thing except that I've done something to deeply hurt him, and that kills me. I'm so upset. And I've no-one to blame, fuck. Oh fuck. I don't know what to do.

It happens. Just take a deep breath, try to sober up a bit and tell him the truth. <3

I took deep breaths, phoned him and he came round. We broke up. It's been building for a while, and this was sort of a catalyst. I think we had fundamentally different views of the relationship - he had "Us" at the centre of his plans and things, and I always felt like I was going to go and do what I wanted and he was a sort of happy afterthought. An example would be if we talked about the end of my course - he always said he'd move to England with me if I left, but there was no way I'd stay in Northern Ireland for him. Like I might if the funding for my MA was good, but not for him. That sort of difference just isn't sustainable, I suppose. And we were fighting more and more, and he wasn't getting what he needed from me (like commitment, serious-face thinking about the future, etc) and I wasn't getting what I needed from him (like he doesn't really care about anything I do except because I care about it, so I can't talk to him about anything important). I was starting to resent him a bit, I think.

And now I don't really know what to do with myself. I feel that this is the right decision, and I'm glad it was mutual and amicable, but I know I still love him dearly and to know that I've hurt him - that we've hurt each other - is killing me. And normally I would go to him for a kiss and cuddle, but I can't. The best friend is phoning on her dinner break, that might help. I don't know. I don't know what to do now.

Indja

I'm sad for you both.

From all you've written, it seems the breakup is
the best thing in the long run for both of you.

For now, live each day the best you can.
Meet your commitments at school and elsewhere.
And seek all the support you want from us,
and your other friends.

-len

PS: I've been to busy to really read the sbox for some days.
I've just been taking care of the spambot posts.
Wish i had seen this sooner.

[Pope Totalfrog]

I kissed a boy who wasn't seamus. and i'm a bit wobbly drunk, but not to the point of an excuse. And now seamy's coming round because i'm upset and need to talk to him, and I'm scared. and I don't know. I'm in this big scary wobbly gray area where I literally do not know a thing except that I've done something to deeply hurt him, and that kills me. I'm so upset. And I've no-one to blame, fuck. Oh fuck. I don't know what to do.

It happens. Just take a deep breath, try to sober up a bit and tell him the truth. <3

I took deep breaths, phoned him and he came round. We broke up. It's been building for a while, and this was sort of a catalyst. I think we had fundamentally different views of the relationship - he had "Us" at the centre of his plans and things, and I always felt like I was going to go and do what I wanted and he was a sort of happy afterthought. An example would be if we talked about the end of my course - he always said he'd move to England with me if I left, but there was no way I'd stay in Northern Ireland for him. Like I might if the funding for my MA was good, but not for him. That sort of difference just isn't sustainable, I suppose. And we were fighting more and more, and he wasn't getting what he needed from me (like commitment, serious-face thinking about the future, etc) and I wasn't getting what I needed from him (like he doesn't really care about anything I do except because I care about it, so I can't talk to him about anything important). I was starting to resent him a bit, I think.

And now I don't really know what to do with myself. I feel that this is the right decision, and I'm glad it was mutual and amicable, but I know I still love him dearly and to know that I've hurt him - that we've hurt each other - is killing me. And normally I would go to him for a kiss and cuddle, but I can't. The best friend is phoning on her dinner break, that might help. I don't know. I don't know what to do now.

Mutual breakups can suck just as much as the other kind. I recommend crying and chocolate. <3

[Indja]

@Len, you're a sweetie. I don't have any school commitments at the moment, so I've assigned myself this weekend for full-on moping and junk-food consumption. After that, I'm going to get on with things. Slowly and a little sadly, but getting on.

@Froggers - See above re. weekend moping xD I've not cried very much, but I had a real moment earlier when I sort of stopped and realised I needed a sob. Felt much better afterwards.

[Astica]

It's 1am. I have a 10 hour shoot day tomorrow, and as it's largely at my house, I have a lot of cleaning and things to do before and afterwards. I would quite like to go to bed so I'm not dying of exhaustion on the day, but I have to make 8 litres of vege soup from scratch and bake three batches of vegan cookies first.
Tired.
So tired.

[Savannah]

Had a huge row with the boss.

Actually he had a huge raw with me, and i was like "wtf?!".

Apparently, not only do i prepare every fucking document and take care of each damn thing (shipment procedures, quotations, cleaning up, dealing with the customers, preparing commercial invoices, etc.) , but also i do fool around(according to him).

Today i have prepared about 8-9 different formal papers, also controlled the shipments, made the necessary payments, answered to phones and e-mails, cleaned up the office kitchen, etc. And half an hour past the end of the work day, mr boss started yelling at me for not being faster.

He said "What's to use of employing you if i still have to take care of everything? I would finish twice as many works as you did today."

And this was the final straw. Everyday he's 2-3 hours late for work, and during the work day, he only answers a couple of emails and makes few phone calls. I take care of each one of his customers too, while i still have to take care of mine and do the other daily things.

I decided to quit this fucking job saying "okay, you don't need me now that you can do everything even faster than me.".

[lentower]

Had a huge row with the boss.

Actually he had a huge raw with me, and i was like "wtf?!".

Apparently, not only do i prepare every fucking document and take care of each damn thing (shipment procedures, quotations, cleaning up, dealing with the customers, preparing commercial invoices, etc.) , but also i do fool around(according to him).

Today i have prepared about 8-9 different formal papers, also controlled the shipments, made the necessary payments, answered to phones and e-mails, cleaned up the office kitchen, etc. And half an hour past the end of the work day, mr boss started yelling at me for not being faster.

He said "What's to use of employing you if i still have to take care of everything? I would finish twice as many works as you did today."

And this was the final straw. Everyday he's 2-3 hours late for work, and during the work day, he only answers a couple of emails and makes few phone calls. I take care of each one of his customers too, while i still have to take care of mine and do the other daily things.

I decided to quit this fucking job saying "okay, you don't need me now that you can do everything even faster than me.".

unless you have enough cash saved to live on for a half year,
wait until you have another job?

[Savannah]

Had a huge row with the boss.

Actually he had a huge raw with me, and i was like "wtf?!".

Apparently, not only do i prepare every fucking document and take care of each damn thing (shipment procedures, quotations, cleaning up, dealing with the customers, preparing commercial invoices, etc.) , but also i do fool around(according to him).

Today i have prepared about 8-9 different formal papers, also controlled the shipments, made the necessary payments, answered to phones and e-mails, cleaned up the office kitchen, etc. And half an hour past the end of the work day, mr boss started yelling at me for not being faster.

He said "What's to use of employing you if i still have to take care of everything? I would finish twice as many works as you did today."

And this was the final straw. Everyday he's 2-3 hours late for work, and during the work day, he only answers a couple of emails and makes few phone calls. I take care of each one of his customers too, while i still have to take care of mine and do the other daily things.

I decided to quit this fucking job saying "okay, you don't need me now that you can do everything even faster than me.".

unless you have enough cash saved to live on for a half year,
wait until you have another job?

I think i won't have too much problem, i still live with my family. And mum keeps saying "Just quit it if they start insulting you, just because you are being paid they don't have the right to yell at or insult you.", she has always supported me in terms of business. And i really really could use some home rest since i've been working non-stop for the past two years, so it wouldn't bother me to look for a new job for months.

I've been thinking about applying to marketing/export divisions of another companies, and i've already got some offers too, but couldn't have find time to go meet them for interviews. And i've also been craving for some spare time to spend on reading some books, watching some movies, etc.

I can't even call in sick even if i get really sick. And i feel like it's gonna kill me to work here for one more year.

[imaginary friend]

ditch the stupid fucker, Savannah!

[Mister Sahara]

i completely agree with your mothers statement. if your boss can't behave, nor appreciate your hard work at all, and if you don't completely depend on this job find something other... it's a big part of your time that you are spending at work, and if people are idiots it can make you very very unhappy in the long run.
besides, you seem to be an experienced and hard-working person, which is somthing i'm sure some other companies DO appreciate a lot.

[spider jerusalem]

What everyone said. If he can do everything better by his own, leave that and let him do all the work.


Take care! 

[Savannah]

Thank you guys for all your supportive comments. I'll totally do it soon, he has sticked to his terrible behaviours today too.

I'm not an irresponsible person, i accept it whenever i make a mistake, and i do what's necessary to remedy it.

But this time i was really following whatever he said and planned me to do for this issue. And the way he behaves kills me rather than being blamed for no reason.

I'm the one who loses her sleep, i'm the one who carry all of the procedures and solve the problems, and he's the one who keeps talking shit.

This job is really bad for my nerves and health, and nothing about it doesn't worth bothering myself.

[lentower]

Thank you guys for all your supportive comments. I'll totally do it soon, he has sticked to his terrible behaviours today too.

I'm not an irresponsible person, i accept it whenever i make a mistake, and i do what's necessary to remedy it.

But this time i was really following whatever he said and planned me to do for this issue. And the way he behaves kills me rather than being blamed for no reason.

I'm the one who loses her sleep, i'm the one who carry all of the procedures and solve the problems, and he's the one who keeps talking shit.

This job is really bad for my nerves and health, and nothing about it doesn't worth bothering myself.

Savannah

What everyone else said!

Also about time you have a vacation!

[Savannah]

^Is it because of water or loud noise?

If it's water, it may dry anytime soon.

But if it's happened because of some other thing, please see a doctor and get your ear checked?

Hearing loss sucks. A couple of years ago, just because i was afraid doctors, i'd stayed deaf for a week straight.
In the end, mum dragged me to a doc, and doc presibribed me a an ear drop. Using it for just one day and a half, i got quite sharp-eared.