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[Captain Oblivious]

And you should remember that a bandage doesn't make the wound go away, it just hides it from sight.

[Miranda.]

I was lying awake wondering what went wrong this time, and wondering if she would've been alright if my friends and I still talked. Things would've been different, at least. She might have held out longer before losing it.
Are we even friends if we don't talk anymore? Or are we just people who love each other and have a lot of history? I don't think I can call her or my other best friend my best friends anymore, and I don't know what to call them.
But I do love them. Even if they're not my friends.
And I feel like I've let them down. They probably could've used me. Could use me.
I think I could have helped her cope for a while longer (she really needs good therapy, and I'm not that, but I'm a good bandage). I'm not sure, with everything between us, I can help my other friend much, but I can at least listen.
And I'm not there and I don't contact them. If they call, I listen, but there's a wall (especially with him). And I'm not what I could be. And I know why, and I know I have the right.
But I miss them. And I love them. And I feel like I could have helped her some, and I can't believe she got to this point (again) without me realizing it.

It seems that she was thinking of you and wanted you to know what was going on because she knew that you would care. Sometimes holding out isn't the best thing. It may have been the best thing for her to recognize that she needs help and it is time to get it. Its good to be supportive of someone and help them through tough times but people also have to be able to cope with things on their own. Sometimes you have to let go of relationships because they are no longer healthy for you but that doesn't mean that you stop caring for that person. Lots of love to you and your friend <3

[Indja]

OK guys, I need some Boxy cuddles. Nothing's happened, but I'm stressed out to hell and feeling very anxious and unhappy. Basically the end of term is whigging me out - the essays I have in tomorrow are both worth 50% of my grade for each module - and then I'm going home on Thursday which should be a good thing but I'm really not feeling it. Things are going to be so difficult with the little'uns and my sister being sick, and my family always make me feel kind of anxious anyway. I haven't even got any presents yet, and I'm in no state of mind to deal with Christmas shopping, which is completely bumming me out because I usually really fucking love Christmas and all this is just making it impossible to enjoy myself. It just doesn't seem like there's going to be any let-up - I've got an exam in January that I really, *really* need to go well because I did so shit on my essay, and then it's my last semester so I have to do a dissertation that I'm freaking out about.

tl;dr - My back hurts, I can't sleep, I'm panic-procrastinating because everything's too scary, and I just needed to vent. Ack.

[Savannah]

^ *the hugest cuddles ever*

It has been a hard season for everybody, i hope the rest of it goes much better.

[Miranda.]

OK guys, I need some Boxy cuddles. Nothing's happened, but I'm stressed out to hell and feeling very anxious and unhappy. Basically the end of term is whigging me out - the essays I have in tomorrow are both worth 50% of my grade for each module - and then I'm going home on Thursday which should be a good thing but I'm really not feeling it. Things are going to be so difficult with the little'uns and my sister being sick, and my family always make me feel kind of anxious anyway. I haven't even got any presents yet, and I'm in no state of mind to deal with Christmas shopping, which is completely bumming me out because I usually really fucking love Christmas and all this is just making it impossible to enjoy myself. It just doesn't seem like there's going to be any let-up - I've got an exam in January that I really, *really* need to go well because I did so shit on my essay, and then it's my last semester so I have to do a dissertation that I'm freaking out about.

tl;dr - My back hurts, I can't sleep, I'm panic-procrastinating because everything's too scary, and I just needed to vent. Ack.

hugs!!! Have you made a list? idk why but listing always helps me. It puts things in perspective plus it feel so nice to cross things off as you accomplish them! It helps to throw in a few easy tasks to get that nice feeling. ie shower, check email... wank (threw that last one out there just for you ) Sometimes we except the worst & go in all stressed & then have really lovely time & then we've spent all that time stressed for nothing. (I do this often. My husband says I am "high strung".) Enjoy the little ones laugh & play and be grateful you don't take then home. Hug your sister, let her know you are around for her and just enjoy her company.

[Marionette26]

if she needs therapy that bad, better sooner than later.

Yeah, I know. She was in therapy for a while - and I thought she was still on medication. If she's still on medication it's obviously not working. And she had to switch insurance and couldn't see her therapist anymore. I don't think she ever found another one, which sucks, because I think it was helping some. If she's not in a good hospital, this might not do any good anyway. A few of them are useless, and a couple could be considered worse than useless. It's going to depend on where they had openings.

@Astica: I don't know what hospital she's in. If she's not out by tomorrow (people get out relatively fast a lot of the time, even if they shouldn't, due to our mental health system sucking), I'm going to get a hold of her Mom and find out.. but then her Mom will have to talk to her and get me added to the visit/call list, and I don't want to stress her Mom out worse than I'm sure she is.. which is why I'm waiting to see.

@Savannah: Thanks. <3. I think after this, I'm going to start trying really hard to be there for them again. The three of us used to all have a lot of depression issues; like needing serious therapy issues. But I've been getting that help for the past lord knows how many years and I've grown a lot.. and it's kind of distanced me from them, among other things. But I don't want them falling apart like this and me not being there and me not knowing why. It's awful.

@Captain: Haha, I know. But sometimes a temporary fix can be nice, until a more permanent one can be scrounged up.

@Miranda: Thanks. <3




@Indja: I agree with what Miranda said, definitely make a list.
Also, do you meditate or anything at all? Sometimes just sitting down and focusing on something not stressful (I chant, because I can't actually clear my mind or make it shut up) and focusing on having deep and even breaths can give you a little bit of space and rest and perspective..
If you don't like meditating maybe find time to do something that is a short task but one you find relaxing? Like making tea, orr.. something. I don't think you cook, do you? But just do something and focus on that and absolutely do not think about whatever is stressing you out. Focus all your attention on whatever you're doing and just be in the moment and breathe.
Make a list and then try to center yourself in the present and in the where you are right now instead of January or Christmas shopping.
-hugscuddleshugs- Shit is stressful. I really hope that things get turned around. <3

[Indja]

Oh, you sweethearts. Thanks everyone for being lovely

A list would really help, especially the satisfaction of checking things off. I don't actually remember when I last showered, so that's got to go on there. And Miranda, I know you were kidding about putting a wank on there, but really I think I could do with one xD I'll try to be more in the moment as well rather than focusing too much on the future. I've never been much good at meditating, but I'll give it a shot. And no, I don't cook, but I do drink tea, and making a brew is a nice little break in play

[Mister Sahara]

wahhhh putting wanking on a list is hilarious, i might just do that next time, just to crack me up! (and so i don't forget of course)

lists are awesome. i also always try to remember, there is no other way than to do one thing after the other anyway. so one thing at a time can't be too much...since it is only one thing.... even if there are many many things to be done, you are allowed to forget about the ones that are not due yet until you get to them! i hope that makes sense...
good luck anyway! oh, and you still have a week until christmas, i'm sure you'll manage the christmas shopping!!

[imaginary friend]

OK guys, I need some Boxy cuddles. Nothing's happened, but I'm stressed out to hell and feeling very anxious and unhappy. Basically the end of term is whigging me out - the essays I have in tomorrow are both worth 50% of my grade for each module - and then I'm going home on Thursday which should be a good thing but I'm really not feeling it. Things are going to be so difficult with the little'uns and my sister being sick, and my family always make me feel kind of anxious anyway. I haven't even got any presents yet, and I'm in no state of mind to deal with Christmas shopping, which is completely bumming me out because I usually really fucking love Christmas and all this is just making it impossible to enjoy myself. It just doesn't seem like there's going to be any let-up - I've got an exam in January that I really, *really* need to go well because I did so shit on my essay, and then it's my last semester so I have to do a dissertation that I'm freaking out about.

tl;dr - My back hurts, I can't sleep, I'm panic-procrastinating because everything's too scary, and I just needed to vent. Ack.

[Indja]

^I'm just going to watch that over and over again until I feel better xD Thank you xxx

Incidentally, "trim my pubes" is also on my list of things to do. It's starting to look distinctly Mirkwood-y down there.

[Miranda.]

I heard terrible noises outside of my office & found my neighbors dog in the ditch after it had been hit by a car

[Astica]

^Is the dog alright now? Did someone call someone? I'm sorry you had to see the dog in pain like that Did the people who hit it stop?

[Marionette26]

Ohmigod Miranda! I'm sorry! That sounds awful. I really hope the dog is alright!

[Miranda.]

No one stopped. I think it may have been a school bus. The owners weren't home and when I was trying to figure out if they were this lady across the rode started yelling at me for being in their yard. (I wasn't even in their yard as it is fenced in and I was standing outside the fence) I drove over to her house & told her the dog had been hit & she called the owner to tell them.

She isn't a very friendly dog so when I went over to see if they were home she growled at me a lot & tried to get away. Her back half was um pretty messed up. She kept trying to get up to get away from me. When I went to the other neighbors house she kept trying to get up and she drug herself off. My husband was going to try and take her to the vet but those people said to leave her alone & that she would probably bite. I was afraid that if we tried to get her then she would hurt herself more trying to get away from us. I don't know if she is ok.

It was really really awful. I cried about it a lot & now I am just trying not to think about it and am hoping that she is ok.

[Marionette26]

I think when an animal is in pain like that and vulnerable, a lot of the time it's instinct is to defend itself regardless of it's termpermant. My dog got out of my fence when I still lived in a house, and I'm assuming the only reason the guy who found her was able to get her to a vet was that she'd been knocked out.
She was okay though; her hip was broken, she's got arthritis in it now, but she lived. So hopefully this doggie will be alright too. If she was able to move and stuff, even if it wasn't very well, it might've just looked worse than it was.
-hugs- Don't worry about it too much. At least you found her. Either way, that probably saved her a lot of pain.