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[imaginary friend]

i've been denying it to myself for a few weeks now, but today i've snapped and am ready to admit i'm feeling quite shitty again.
hopefully it'll be a passing thing, but there's a fair few things in flux in my life right now and i can just tell that if my plans fail and i'm stuck in my job for another year something nasty's going to happen.
i was searching the other night on basically every careers website i could think of, and there are literally NO jobs suitable for me in my area. i'm at the stage where i hate my current job so much, i'm willing to do ANYTHING at all but all the non-catering ones require qualifications i don't have because i flaked out on school before sitting my exams, and i've been in a catering job for two years and if i have to smile politely at another person who asks for a 'coffee latte' (y'know, as opposed to those sewage lattes you also get) or grovel at the feet of some disgusting old posho who's just spilled scalding hot soup all over me i think i'll go on a murderous rampage which i'll probably end up regretting.
hopefully i can get into college, do my highers, go to uni and then end up as a really, really cool teacher and make all the kids dead interested in microbes or buddhism or whatever i end up teaching, but i'm catastrophising right now and the only future i can see for myself is a grubby existence being an absolute frustrated dickhead of a catering manager with an alcohol problem. and all my staff will have horrid and creative code names for me.

i've lost my thread but i think it says a lot about you guys here that i feel comfortable writing stuff like this here even though i like never post anymore. go you guys!!!

maybe you should be out of there within the year.


...and welcome back.   

[Mister Sahara]

so...what do you have to do to get into college?

[Miranda.]

Aw man, I am freaking out >.< I'm finishing my application to volunteer at Corrymeela for a year, but then I have to think like what do I want to do afterwards - and God I don't even know what I'll do with myself if I don't get accepted for it, because wtf. It's a nightmare. And everyone keeps saying like "Well what do you want to do", which is massively unhelpful because, hello, if I knew that then I'd fucking *do* it. URGH.

well, what do you NOT want to do?

maybe you should go to Australia!... or America it's pretty cool too

I don't want to end up working in a shop, or doing something just to pay the rent. I don't want to end up staying in Belfast or Manchester without living anywhere else first. I don't want to be bored.

[bambiraptor]

maybe you should be out of there within the year.


...and welcome back.   

thankyou! i shall keep you all posted, i imagine.

so...what do you have to do to get into college?

i have to apply and just hope there's a place for me, last year loads of people didn't get in so i really hope i've not left it too late!
and then, because my local college doesn't do the course i want i need to move to dundee, which should be doable if i start saving now, and get a job there and stuff. it's all totally doable, i just work myself into a faff sometimes.

[Captain Oblivious]

maybe you should be out of there within the year.


...and welcome back.   

thankyou! i shall keep you all posted, i imagine.

so...what do you have to do to get into college?

i have to apply and just hope there's a place for me, last year loads of people didn't get in so i really hope i've not left it too late!
and then, because my local college doesn't do the course i want i need to move to dundee, which should be doable if i start saving now, and get a job there and stuff. it's all totally doable, i just work myself into a faff sometimes.

I live in Dundee! /somewhat related.

I hope you get everything sorted

[Astica]

i've been denying it to myself for a few weeks now, but today i've snapped and am ready to admit i'm feeling quite shitty again.
hopefully it'll be a passing thing, but there's a fair few things in flux in my life right now and i can just tell that if my plans fail and i'm stuck in my job for another year something nasty's going to happen.
i was searching the other night on basically every careers website i could think of, and there are literally NO jobs suitable for me in my area. i'm at the stage where i hate my current job so much, i'm willing to do ANYTHING at all but all the non-catering ones require qualifications i don't have because i flaked out on school before sitting my exams, and i've been in a catering job for two years and if i have to smile politely at another person who asks for a 'coffee latte' (y'know, as opposed to those sewage lattes you also get) or grovel at the feet of some disgusting old posho who's just spilled scalding hot soup all over me i think i'll go on a murderous rampage which i'll probably end up regretting.
hopefully i can get into college, do my highers, go to uni and then end up as a really, really cool teacher and make all the kids dead interested in microbes or buddhism or whatever i end up teaching, but i'm catastrophising right now and the only future i can see for myself is a grubby existence being an absolute frustrated dickhead of a catering manager with an alcohol problem. and all my staff will have horrid and creative code names for me.

i've lost my thread but i think it says a lot about you guys here that i feel comfortable writing stuff like this here even though i like never post anymore. go you guys!!!

Having just finished university I can tell you it's not much better even with qualifications, at least not in NZ, and apparently in England, too. I'm not sure where else the complete lack of decent jobs has spread -.-
Basically everyone has a degree these days and there are just too many unemployed people and not enough jobs. Make sure it's what you really want, and that you genuinely want to study what you're studying to learn about it for your own personal reasons and not just because you want a different job.

[hyena_lips]

it wasnt today, but a few days ago my love of 8+ years started seeing someone else. that sucked.

[Faloleen]

Having just finished university I can tell you it's not much better even with qualifications, at least not in NZ, and apparently in England, too. I'm not sure where else the complete lack of decent jobs has spread -.-
Basically everyone has a degree these days and there are just too many unemployed people and not enough jobs. Make sure it's what you really want, and that you genuinely want to study what you're studying to learn about it for your own personal reasons and not just because you want a different job.

Same situation here in Czech Rep. I'm going to finish uni this year and I'm scared as shit. Because none of my friends who already graduated have work in a field they studied. They are unemployed or work in a call center or shop or something. My friend who studied chemistry works in a bar. My other friend has a masters degree in national security and he works as a tourist guide. I didn't study abroad and I don't have any stellar experiences so I guess soon I'll have the same problem. Not to mention that I have no idea what I want to do.

[Astica]

Having just finished university I can tell you it's not much better even with qualifications, at least not in NZ, and apparently in England, too. I'm not sure where else the complete lack of decent jobs has spread -.-
Basically everyone has a degree these days and there are just too many unemployed people and not enough jobs. Make sure it's what you really want, and that you genuinely want to study what you're studying to learn about it for your own personal reasons and not just because you want a different job.

Same situation here in Czech Rep. I'm going to finish uni this year and I'm scared as shit. Because none of my friends who already graduated have work in a field they studied. They are unemployed or work in a call center or shop or something. My friend who studied chemistry works in a bar. My other friend has a masters degree in national security and he works as a tourist guide. I didn't study abroad and I don't have any stellar experiences so I guess soon I'll have the same problem. Not to mention that I have no idea what I want to do.

Yeah, I'm currently unemployed and in a wasteland of having no purpose in life, which is also relevant to this thread.
"Get an honours degree", they said. "You'll end up with a much better job than if you'd dropped out of high school and worked your way up the blue collar ladder", they said. Still, I'm glad I did my degree, I'm glad I learned the things I did, and met the people I know, I'm just resigned to the fact that I'll be in debt for the rest of my life because how the hell will I pay off a $50,000 student loan when I can't land a minimum wage job.
The funny thing is, I always knew my degree wouldn't guarantee some nice shining job in my field of study that paid generous wages, but I never realised it would be counter-productive to getting any old job, which is apparently is, since no one wants to hire me within my field (or anything related) due to lack of work experience/the lack of entry-level jobs, but no one wants to hire me for normal jobs in bars and stores etc because I lack work experience AND I'm overqualified.

[Captain Oblivious]

Having just finished university I can tell you it's not much better even with qualifications, at least not in NZ, and apparently in England, too. I'm not sure where else the complete lack of decent jobs has spread -.-
Basically everyone has a degree these days and there are just too many unemployed people and not enough jobs. Make sure it's what you really want, and that you genuinely want to study what you're studying to learn about it for your own personal reasons and not just because you want a different job.

Same situation here in Czech Rep. I'm going to finish uni this year and I'm scared as shit. Because none of my friends who already graduated have work in a field they studied. They are unemployed or work in a call center or shop or something. My friend who studied chemistry works in a bar. My other friend has a masters degree in national security and he works as a tourist guide. I didn't study abroad and I don't have any stellar experiences so I guess soon I'll have the same problem. Not to mention that I have no idea what I want to do.

Yeah, I'm currently unemployed and in a wasteland of having no purpose in life, which is also relevant to this thread.
"Get an honours degree", they said. "You'll end up with a much better job than if you'd dropped out of high school and worked your way up the blue collar ladder", they said. Still, I'm glad I did my degree, I'm glad I learned the things I did, and met the people I know, I'm just resigned to the fact that I'll be in debt for the rest of my life because how the hell will I pay off a $50,000 student loan when I can't land a minimum wage job.
The funny thing is, I always knew my degree wouldn't guarantee some nice shining job in my field of study that paid generous wages, but I never realised it would be counter-productive to getting any old job, which is apparently is, since no one wants to hire me within my field (or anything related) due to lack of work experience/the lack of entry-level jobs, but no one wants to hire me for normal jobs in bars and stores etc because I lack work experience AND I'm overqualified.

This is why I'm trying to get as much relevant experience as I can while I'm still in uni. I've joined the volunteer police and looked into working with local psychologists and charities; anything to help me get a step up.

[Astica]

Having just finished university I can tell you it's not much better even with qualifications, at least not in NZ, and apparently in England, too. I'm not sure where else the complete lack of decent jobs has spread -.-
Basically everyone has a degree these days and there are just too many unemployed people and not enough jobs. Make sure it's what you really want, and that you genuinely want to study what you're studying to learn about it for your own personal reasons and not just because you want a different job.

Same situation here in Czech Rep. I'm going to finish uni this year and I'm scared as shit. Because none of my friends who already graduated have work in a field they studied. They are unemployed or work in a call center or shop or something. My friend who studied chemistry works in a bar. My other friend has a masters degree in national security and he works as a tourist guide. I didn't study abroad and I don't have any stellar experiences so I guess soon I'll have the same problem. Not to mention that I have no idea what I want to do.

Yeah, I'm currently unemployed and in a wasteland of having no purpose in life, which is also relevant to this thread.
"Get an honours degree", they said. "You'll end up with a much better job than if you'd dropped out of high school and worked your way up the blue collar ladder", they said. Still, I'm glad I did my degree, I'm glad I learned the things I did, and met the people I know, I'm just resigned to the fact that I'll be in debt for the rest of my life because how the hell will I pay off a $50,000 student loan when I can't land a minimum wage job.
The funny thing is, I always knew my degree wouldn't guarantee some nice shining job in my field of study that paid generous wages, but I never realised it would be counter-productive to getting any old job, which is apparently is, since no one wants to hire me within my field (or anything related) due to lack of work experience/the lack of entry-level jobs, but no one wants to hire me for normal jobs in bars and stores etc because I lack work experience AND I'm overqualified.

This is why I'm trying to get as much relevant experience as I can while I'm still in uni. I've joined the volunteer police and looked into working with local psychologists and charities; anything to help me get a step up.

Yeah, I wish I'd done that. Everyone said not to work while studying since it might damage your grades, and one of the limited entry papers I took this year even said that they'd prioritise applicants who didn't have a job. Now we've all finished and the ones who worked through their degrees seem to stand a much better chance of getting any job, and grades don't seem to matter to anyone (within reason, of course). I think the problem here is that no one knows what they're doing ever or how the future is really going to turn out, so while everyone is giving advice about going to uni and focussing on grades or doing a trade or working while studying or anything else, it's all just Captain Hindsight ideas of what would have been a good idea for now, but might not be relevant in however many years time. It kind of sucks for our generation, but hey, too late. I think there's a cracked article about this somewhere, I'll see if I can find it.

EDIT: I'm not sure if this is exactly the same one, but it's pretty relevant anyway: http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-ways-we-ruined-occupy-wall-street-generation/

[Blue Canary]

It's been a generally stupid week. I was talking to this really cute and nice boy, but he decided that he was uninterested and stop talking to me. I made a fairly new friend and I think he likes me, but he's my good friend's "friends-with-benefits" partner and they have a very complicated relationship so I have no idea what to do.
WHY IS ANYTHING RELATED TO RELATIONSHIPS ALWAYS SO STUPID


I quit.

[jtaylor]

^ It hasn't really ruined my day but I agree about relationships being frustrating. I keep wanting to actively look for a relationship but then I think about all the other things I have to worry about that are more important, and I rarely have any social interaction with anyone I might be interested in. I'm not even longing for the falling in love so much as I am longing for the friendship. I hope things will get better in six months or so after I've finished school and moved and started working, but I wish I had someone to help me get through the next six months.

[Indja]

^I'm reading a book at the minute called the Ethical Slut - it's online, I just googled it and found the pdf - and it's pretty awesome. It's about challenging and ultimately rejecting social ideas of what relationships 'should' be, with a focus on moving away from the monogamous model which says we should be able, and want, to find a single individual to meet all of our needs for the rest of our lives.

Anyway, my point was, there's nothing wrong or weird about looking for friendship more than romantic love, and nothing wrong with looking for something casual to pass the time with rather than a 'proper' relationship. I'd look for something like a more explicitly physical - if not fully sexual - friendship if I were in your position.

[Pelle]

If it's any consolation to anyone who is looking for a job: in Holland it's just as bad. I've been delivering the mail for a year now, and it's okay. People do look down on you, but the job itself is outside, with no dumb people around you.

My former drummer was unemployed for 3 months, my ex-girlfriend is still kind of unemployed and a housemate hasn't got enough projects running (he's a sound engineer) to get enough money. Everyone is having a hard time, and it sucks but you have to focus on positive things

I for one love working on my music and art. I know it won't earn me a lot of money, but it does give me a goal.