This didn't ruin my today, it was a few days ago but I never made the post I was going to.
I have a friend, ex-crush, who will be referred to as F. He's the guy I went an outdoor screening of Nosferatu with, he's originally Iranian. He's...kind of a difficult person, sometimes he just comes across as an asshole. Around the time I had a crush on him I had recently stopped seeing a guy who will here be K. He was a good bit older than me but we got on really well, sometimes he gets on my nerves a little because he often seems a little...I'm not sure if immature is the word, he makes awkward jokes and stuff and makes references about things that the person he's talking to clearly isn't going to understand. Anyway, F and K did not like each other at all.
F is a graphic design student in his second year and would keep giving K advice about his website, K is an art school graduate, qualified art teacher and other things (my memory is awful), this pissed K off because it seemed a little invasive. To put it simply, their personalities clashed. They would constantly get into stupid catty fights over facebook comments on a status or photo of mine, I wanted to turn the hose on them. I had to constantly tell them to stop talking to each other and justify to one of them why I was friends with the other. They would make horrible comments about each other while talking to me, which I always had to reply to with "Please don't start, you know he's my friend". Eventually I got them to delete each other and stop interacting.
At New Years I went to a party in my dates apartment. He's from Brazil as are the rest of his flatmates, there's a mysterious amount of Brazilian people in Dublin and I happen to be friends with a lot. There was one other Irish person at this party. A group photo was taken and when it was uploaded to Facebook, F commented saying "are you the only white person here?" I laughed and said "There was one other! he's just not in the picture". Then somehow F turned it into "You have to stop hanging out with these people, they're a drain on society". This photo was hosted on one of their profiles and had everyone tagged in it, so obviously it turned into a big gross insult flinging fight. Which leaves me having to explain to people why I'm friends with F, and having to be angry at him. I had a conversation with him where I told him that when he acts like that he puts me in a awkward position. His response was basically "I don't know them, I don't care if I offend them". I do know them, they're my friends. And when he offends my friends that puts me in a fucking horrible position of having to apologise for him because he won't do it himself. He deleted all his comments eventually.
I don't want to have to stop being his friend, but if I continue having to justify my hanging out with him to other people because of what an ass he is to the rest of my friends, then I'll have to stop.
Why are people so fucking complicated?