Sorry to hear that the "men" in your life kinda suck.
I hope the boyfriend at least will get with the program....
We spoke on the phone for a long while this evening.
he's having some issues of his own.
it was good to have some emotional support, even when he is down in the dumps as well.
he advised me to cut off contact with my father, since he causes me so much pain and turmoil, emotionally.
even though i'm still feeling like crap, he got me to stop crying.
Mandolin, i've read your previous post too. I don't know what to say, except of "i really do understand you.".
And when the father sucks, having someone to talk at least makes you feel a little better.
I also have many problems with my father, including a lawcase between him and i. I tried to keep in touch with him but it doesn't work. Each time i talk to him he manages to make me feel like shit. He keeps talking about her wife who doesn't want us to talk.
And i decided not to give a damn about him anoymore either. Because even talking to him on the phone makes me sick, a simple birthday celebration turns into something like "i want you to visit us but we don't have an empty room, i want to buy you a graduation present but the kids are going to kindergarten and it's too expensive, my wife wants you to blah blah, i phoned you 3 times last month but you phoned me 2 times" etc.
He keeps making up excuses, and blames me for everything. So i told him "I don't want anything from you, no allowance, no care, no phone calls, no what your wife thinks. I don't want to see you anymore, you haven't been here when i had an operation, you haven't been here when i graduated, so you don't need to be here when i get married or give birth or die."
Since then i feel better. All that complications and drama has gone. Though sometimes i feel like i need some support or care, i know that half care is not better than non.
Anyway, what i experienced with my parents aside, i want you to know that i'm always here to talk to you. And i understand how you feel.