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[Mister Sahara]

Lost a good friend yesterday.

sorry for your loss 

[LoneWanderer]

My father's drunken ranting about how I'm a useless piece of shit

[Indja]

I kissed a boy who wasn't seamus. and i'm a bit wobbly drunk, but not to the point of an excuse. And now seamy's coming round because i'm upset and need to talk to him, and I'm scared. and I don't know. I'm in this big scary wobbly gray area where I literally do not know a thing except that I've done something to deeply hurt him, and that kills me. I'm so upset. And I've no-one to blame, fuck. Oh fuck. I don't know what to do.

[Pope Totalfrog]

I kissed a boy who wasn't seamus. and i'm a bit wobbly drunk, but not to the point of an excuse. And now seamy's coming round because i'm upset and need to talk to him, and I'm scared. and I don't know. I'm in this big scary wobbly gray area where I literally do not know a thing except that I've done something to deeply hurt him, and that kills me. I'm so upset. And I've no-one to blame, fuck. Oh fuck. I don't know what to do.

It happens. Just take a deep breath, try to sober up a bit and tell him the truth. <3

[Indja]

I kissed a boy who wasn't seamus. and i'm a bit wobbly drunk, but not to the point of an excuse. And now seamy's coming round because i'm upset and need to talk to him, and I'm scared. and I don't know. I'm in this big scary wobbly gray area where I literally do not know a thing except that I've done something to deeply hurt him, and that kills me. I'm so upset. And I've no-one to blame, fuck. Oh fuck. I don't know what to do.

It happens. Just take a deep breath, try to sober up a bit and tell him the truth. <3

I took deep breaths, phoned him and he came round. We broke up. It's been building for a while, and this was sort of a catalyst. I think we had fundamentally different views of the relationship - he had "Us" at the centre of his plans and things, and I always felt like I was going to go and do what I wanted and he was a sort of happy afterthought. An example would be if we talked about the end of my course - he always said he'd move to England with me if I left, but there was no way I'd stay in Northern Ireland for him. Like I might if the funding for my MA was good, but not for him. That sort of difference just isn't sustainable, I suppose. And we were fighting more and more, and he wasn't getting what he needed from me (like commitment, serious-face thinking about the future, etc) and I wasn't getting what I needed from him (like he doesn't really care about anything I do except because I care about it, so I can't talk to him about anything important). I was starting to resent him a bit, I think.

And now I don't really know what to do with myself. I feel that this is the right decision, and I'm glad it was mutual and amicable, but I know I still love him dearly and to know that I've hurt him - that we've hurt each other - is killing me. And normally I would go to him for a kiss and cuddle, but I can't. The best friend is phoning on her dinner break, that might help. I don't know. I don't know what to do now.

[Captain Oblivious]

I kissed a boy who wasn't seamus. and i'm a bit wobbly drunk, but not to the point of an excuse. And now seamy's coming round because i'm upset and need to talk to him, and I'm scared. and I don't know. I'm in this big scary wobbly gray area where I literally do not know a thing except that I've done something to deeply hurt him, and that kills me. I'm so upset. And I've no-one to blame, fuck. Oh fuck. I don't know what to do.

It happens. Just take a deep breath, try to sober up a bit and tell him the truth. <3

I took deep breaths, phoned him and he came round. We broke up. It's been building for a while, and this was sort of a catalyst. I think we had fundamentally different views of the relationship - he had "Us" at the centre of his plans and things, and I always felt like I was going to go and do what I wanted and he was a sort of happy afterthought. An example would be if we talked about the end of my course - he always said he'd move to England with me if I left, but there was no way I'd stay in Northern Ireland for him. Like I might if the funding for my MA was good, but not for him. That sort of difference just isn't sustainable, I suppose. And we were fighting more and more, and he wasn't getting what he needed from me (like commitment, serious-face thinking about the future, etc) and I wasn't getting what I needed from him (like he doesn't really care about anything I do except because I care about it, so I can't talk to him about anything important). I was starting to resent him a bit, I think.

And now I don't really know what to do with myself. I feel that this is the right decision, and I'm glad it was mutual and amicable, but I know I still love him dearly and to know that I've hurt him - that we've hurt each other - is killing me. And normally I would go to him for a kiss and cuddle, but I can't. The best friend is phoning on her dinner break, that might help. I don't know. I don't know what to do now.

I'm so sorry Indie. Breakups are always tough, amicable or not. I hope you're ok and you know all of us are here for you ♥

[Mr. Leave Me Alone]

I'm really sorry to hear that . I hope that your friend phoning helps and that you feel better soon.

[Astica]

I was starting to resent him a bit, I think.

I had kind of noticed this but didn't want to say too much because it was your relationship and not really my business to tell you how I thought you felt or what to do. Sorry to hear it ended this way, but mine kind of did too, and I am currently so happy to be single, honestly. Hopefully once it sinks in you'll be the same way, too <3 Feeling like you've hurt people is the worst, but people always get better, and it's not like there was much you could have done without hurting yourself in order to keep him happy.

@bec: it really sounds like she doesn't realise that what she's doing is wrong. She might be aware that you think it is, which is why she cuts you off every time you try to say something, but surely she wouldn't go on about it if she knew. Her talking sounds like a cross between that proud mother who constantly goes on about cute things her baby does, and the person with the new girl/boyfriend who wont stop gushing about them. I'd definitely call someone if I were you. Let me know how it turns out :\

[Savannah]

I kissed a boy who wasn't seamus. and i'm a bit wobbly drunk, but not to the point of an excuse. And now seamy's coming round because i'm upset and need to talk to him, and I'm scared. and I don't know. I'm in this big scary wobbly gray area where I literally do not know a thing except that I've done something to deeply hurt him, and that kills me. I'm so upset. And I've no-one to blame, fuck. Oh fuck. I don't know what to do.

It happens. Just take a deep breath, try to sober up a bit and tell him the truth. <3

I took deep breaths, phoned him and he came round. We broke up. It's been building for a while, and this was sort of a catalyst. I think we had fundamentally different views of the relationship - he had "Us" at the centre of his plans and things, and I always felt like I was going to go and do what I wanted and he was a sort of happy afterthought. An example would be if we talked about the end of my course - he always said he'd move to England with me if I left, but there was no way I'd stay in Northern Ireland for him. Like I might if the funding for my MA was good, but not for him. That sort of difference just isn't sustainable, I suppose. And we were fighting more and more, and he wasn't getting what he needed from me (like commitment, serious-face thinking about the future, etc) and I wasn't getting what I needed from him (like he doesn't really care about anything I do except because I care about it, so I can't talk to him about anything important). I was starting to resent him a bit, I think.

And now I don't really know what to do with myself. I feel that this is the right decision, and I'm glad it was mutual and amicable, but I know I still love him dearly and to know that I've hurt him - that we've hurt each other - is killing me. And normally I would go to him for a kiss and cuddle, but I can't. The best friend is phoning on her dinner break, that might help. I don't know. I don't know what to do now.

I'm so sorry Indie. Breakups are always tough, amicable or not. I hope you're ok and you know all of us are here for you ♥

What Captain said.

And maybe that was how it should have been. From what you told, i understood that there were still doubts in both of your minds. And breaking up after everything went serious would be much more difficult. If you really feel like this is the right decision, then there's nothing more to do about it.

He knows you very well, so after a while he'll understand you didn't mean to hurt him. At least for the sake of all these things you went through as a couple.

*Hugs*

[Indja]

Thank you so much, sweethearts. I'm so glad you're here I'm sure I'll be fine in the end, and I do think it's better this way, but I'm still really sad, obviously. He wants to sort our stuff out tomorrow, like get his from mine and vice versa, which I think will be hard, but it's for the best. He seems OK, though he isn't talking about it very much. I'm really hoping we can still be mates after this - he is pretty much one of the kindest, sweetest guys I know, I don't want to lose him from my life.

[Astica]

Definitely have some time apart before you try to be friends. A friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend recently, and his attempts to be friends with her immediately led her to believe they were basically unofficially getting back together, which led to a massive blow up when she found out that wasn't the case. They don't talk at all anymore.
I haven't spoken to my ex at all since we broke up (about a month ago). We acknowledged, even at the time, that we'd have to be friends, though, or at least on good terms, since we're doing a whole year of study together this year in very small classes. I still have all his books, though, and I don't know how to give them back. I considered just passing them over on the first day of class, but I don't want to make a scene. I also don't really want to meet up with him just yet to do it that way :\

[slyvia k]

Thank you so much, sweethearts. I'm so glad you're here I'm sure I'll be fine in the end, and I do think it's better this way, but I'm still really sad, obviously. He wants to sort our stuff out tomorrow, like get his from mine and vice versa, which I think will be hard, but it's for the best. He seems OK, though he isn't talking about it very much. I'm really hoping we can still be mates after this - he is pretty much one of the kindest, sweetest guys I know, I don't want to lose him from my life.

hugs coming you way. eat loads of ice cream

[buttercup.]

Thank you so much, sweethearts. I'm so glad you're here I'm sure I'll be fine in the end, and I do think it's better this way, but I'm still really sad, obviously. He wants to sort our stuff out tomorrow, like get his from mine and vice versa, which I think will be hard, but it's for the best. He seems OK, though he isn't talking about it very much. I'm really hoping we can still be mates after this - he is pretty much one of the kindest, sweetest guys I know, I don't want to lose him from my life.

I love you HeRo <3

[imaginary friend]

Thank you so much, sweethearts. I'm so glad you're here I'm sure I'll be fine in the end, and I do think it's better this way, but I'm still really sad, obviously. He wants to sort our stuff out tomorrow, like get his from mine and vice versa, which I think will be hard, but it's for the best. He seems OK, though he isn't talking about it very much. I'm really hoping we can still be mates after this - he is pretty much one of the kindest, sweetest guys I know, I don't want to lose him from my life.

hugs coming you way. eat loads of ice cream

cake, too.

xx

[Indja]

Thank you so much, sweethearts. I'm so glad you're here I'm sure I'll be fine in the end, and I do think it's better this way, but I'm still really sad, obviously. He wants to sort our stuff out tomorrow, like get his from mine and vice versa, which I think will be hard, but it's for the best. He seems OK, though he isn't talking about it very much. I'm really hoping we can still be mates after this - he is pretty much one of the kindest, sweetest guys I know, I don't want to lose him from my life.

hugs coming you way. eat loads of ice cream

cake, too.

xx

I've actually been a bit hungover today, so I've not eaten yet, but I think I might break the dam with some Subway and Doritos and then get on with the sugary, sugary comfort eating xD