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[Annebelle.]

We had a new flatmate move in a few weeks ago, and she's lovely and all, and for the first time in ages our house is fairly harmonious. Unfortunately, things seem to be going less than well with the guy she's seeing, who she appeared to have broken up with when we heard him crying and the two of them arguing, and then he left. A few days later he returned and knocked on her window incessantly for ages, then left, came back less than an hour later, and did it again. This time I heard her open the window, and he kind of forced himself through it, and she was saying she was going to call the police and telling him to leave, and I was wondering if I should do something or go and see if she was okay, but I don't know either of them very well, and wasn't sure if she actually needed help or if she was just mad at him and saying that to emphasise her point. Anyway, I didn't really hear anything for ages (I don't sit around listening to my flatmates all day, but her room is next to mine and we have thin walls, so always hear raised voices), and then they left together.
She acted fine for the next few days, and he's been coming around a bit to pick her up and take her places (he always goes to her window and gets her to come out, he never comes to the door). This morning I heard him outside yelling to let him in and she seemed to be ignoring him for a while before she did, and before they left.

My concern is that this could just be a garden-variety unpleasant relationship I would still try and talk her out of if we were friends, or this guy could actually be coercing her into continuing to see him somehow. I'm worried about her, but don't know if or how to talk to her about it since she hasn't mentioned anything to us and seems like she's fine whenever we talk to her. She never even mentions him or anything. Help?

I don't have any advice at the moment (it's late here and I'm beat), but I didn't want this to die unnoticed amidst all the VG drama...so I'm bumping it for you.

might have something somewhat useful to say about it after I get some sleep. in the meantime, the floor is open.

I'd try just letting her know you're there if she ever needs to talk, by saying something like "look, I know it's non of my business, but the walls here are very thin. So I couln't help but noticing that there seems to be something going on between you and your boyfriend. You know, if you ever want to talk about it, you can always talk to me"

That way, she knows you've noticed, so you're kind of looking out for her. And she knows there'll be a listening ear, if she needs one.

[absynth aura]

We had a new flatmate move in a few weeks ago, and she's lovely and all, and for the first time in ages our house is fairly harmonious. Unfortunately, things seem to be going less than well with the guy she's seeing, who she appeared to have broken up with when we heard him crying and the two of them arguing, and then he left. A few days later he returned and knocked on her window incessantly for ages, then left, came back less than an hour later, and did it again. This time I heard her open the window, and he kind of forced himself through it, and she was saying she was going to call the police and telling him to leave, and I was wondering if I should do something or go and see if she was okay, but I don't know either of them very well, and wasn't sure if she actually needed help or if she was just mad at him and saying that to emphasise her point. Anyway, I didn't really hear anything for ages (I don't sit around listening to my flatmates all day, but her room is next to mine and we have thin walls, so always hear raised voices), and then they left together.
She acted fine for the next few days, and he's been coming around a bit to pick her up and take her places (he always goes to her window and gets her to come out, he never comes to the door). This morning I heard him outside yelling to let him in and she seemed to be ignoring him for a while before she did, and before they left.

My concern is that this could just be a garden-variety unpleasant relationship I would still try and talk her out of if we were friends, or this guy could actually be coercing her into continuing to see him somehow. I'm worried about her, but don't know if or how to talk to her about it since she hasn't mentioned anything to us and seems like she's fine whenever we talk to her. She never even mentions him or anything. Help?

I don't have any advice at the moment (it's late here and I'm beat), but I didn't want this to die unnoticed amidst all the VG drama...so I'm bumping it for you.

might have something somewhat useful to say about it after I get some sleep. in the meantime, the floor is open.

I'd try just letting her know you're there if she ever needs to talk, by saying something like "look, I know it's non of my business, but the walls here are very thin. So I couln't help but noticing that there seems to be something going on between you and your boyfriend. You know, if you ever want to talk about it, you can always talk to me"

That way, she knows you've noticed, so you're kind of looking out for her. And she knows there'll be a listening ear, if she needs one.

And that you're not being nosy.

[Indja]

Hangover. Wtf.

[Agonistes]

also hangover.  and the residual pain from faceplanting in the bar last night.

[Indja]

^Ouch. I have mystery bruises on my knees, and a couple of hickeys that I'm hoping die down before college next week.

[Agonistes]

not for the first time, i have to return glassware.

[Indja]

I want to go drinking with you xD Will you take me to biker bars and introduce me to scary hairy awesomers?

[Agonistes]

I want to go drinking with you xD Will you take me to biker bars and introduce me to scary hairy awesomers?

yes.  this was theater people, and a wake to boot.  so it was even scarier than a biker bar.

[Astica]

We had a new flatmate move in a few weeks ago, and she's lovely and all, and for the first time in ages our house is fairly harmonious. Unfortunately, things seem to be going less than well with the guy she's seeing, who she appeared to have broken up with when we heard him crying and the two of them arguing, and then he left. A few days later he returned and knocked on her window incessantly for ages, then left, came back less than an hour later, and did it again. This time I heard her open the window, and he kind of forced himself through it, and she was saying she was going to call the police and telling him to leave, and I was wondering if I should do something or go and see if she was okay, but I don't know either of them very well, and wasn't sure if she actually needed help or if she was just mad at him and saying that to emphasise her point. Anyway, I didn't really hear anything for ages (I don't sit around listening to my flatmates all day, but her room is next to mine and we have thin walls, so always hear raised voices), and then they left together.
She acted fine for the next few days, and he's been coming around a bit to pick her up and take her places (he always goes to her window and gets her to come out, he never comes to the door). This morning I heard him outside yelling to let him in and she seemed to be ignoring him for a while before she did, and before they left.

My concern is that this could just be a garden-variety unpleasant relationship I would still try and talk her out of if we were friends, or this guy could actually be coercing her into continuing to see him somehow. I'm worried about her, but don't know if or how to talk to her about it since she hasn't mentioned anything to us and seems like she's fine whenever we talk to her. She never even mentions him or anything. Help?

I don't have any advice at the moment (it's late here and I'm beat), but I didn't want this to die unnoticed amidst all the VG drama...so I'm bumping it for you.

might have something somewhat useful to say about it after I get some sleep. in the meantime, the floor is open.

I'd try just letting her know you're there if she ever needs to talk, by saying something like "look, I know it's non of my business, but the walls here are very thin. So I couln't help but noticing that there seems to be something going on between you and your boyfriend. You know, if you ever want to talk about it, you can always talk to me"

That way, she knows you've noticed, so you're kind of looking out for her. And she knows there'll be a listening ear, if she needs one.

And that you're not being nosy.

Thanks guys. I don't want to...I don't know, startle her by just straight up saying something because I'm not even sure what's going on yet, and I don't want her to think that I'm nosy or weird She seems like a nice girl, though, and I'd like to be a friend to her, and to help her out if she needs it, but every time I ask how she is she insists that she's good/fine so much I can't really find an opening to be like "really? Because I've been hearing this through the walls..." It's just, ugh, I'm not good with words :\ or social appropriateness...

[Pope Totalfrog]

I just found out my uncle is really sick. In ICU on a ventilator sick. He had an infection around his heart and discharged himself last week. One of his friends went to check on him last night and found him in a coma. My grandparents are both really unwell and can't get to the hospital and my dad and my other uncles can't be bothered taking them to see him.

So tl;dr basically my uncle could die and my grandmother can't see get in to see him.

[absynth aura]

I just found out my uncle is really sick. In ICU on a ventilator sick. He had an infection around his heart and discharged himself last week. One of his friends went to check on him last night and found him in a coma. My grandparents are both really unwell and can't get to the hospital and my dad and my other uncles can't be bothered taking them to see him.

So tl;dr basically my uncle could die and my grandmother can't see get in to see him.

That's really, really unfortunate. I'm sorry to hear.
Also, really lame that nobody will take your grandmother in to see him, some people are just...gah, ya know.
I hope that she can get into see him somehow!

[Savannah]

I just found out my uncle is really sick. In ICU on a ventilator sick. He had an infection around his heart and discharged himself last week. One of his friends went to check on him last night and found him in a coma. My grandparents are both really unwell and can't get to the hospital and my dad and my other uncles can't be bothered taking them to see him.

So tl;dr basically my uncle could die and my grandmother can't see get in to see him.

That's really, really unfortunate. I'm sorry to hear.
Also, really lame that nobody will take your grandmother in to see him, some people are just...gah, ya know.
I hope that she can get into see him somehow!

I'm so so sorry Froggy,
a mother can't get in to see her son while he's in coma, that's tragic  :'( I hope somebody takes her in.

[imaginary friend]

any way to ditch the lot of them completely? well, other than the grandparents?

[Pope Totalfrog]

any way to ditch the lot of them completely? well, other than the grandparents?

I wish.

Uncle still hasn't woken up even though they have turned all his sedation off. I was hoping I'd get a phone call telling me that he'd woken up and was going to be ok but apparently that is looking less likely.

[Savannah]

Today mum told me that one of my good friends from the secondary school had commit suicide and died 4 years ago  :'(

His home was near to the school my mum used to work at, and as we studied in that school in the same class, he was one of the best students of my mother. He was a very respectful and cute person and everybody in the class loved him.

I asked my mum if she knew the reason he had commit suicide, she told me that the kids in the neighborhood bullied and mocked him ruthlessly because he was hair-lipped.

I remember hearing someone from that blocks had committed suicide, but i didn't know it was him  :'( :'( :'(