^We didn't spend much time with each other when I was very little, but then I moved in with him when I was 12 or 13 so I don't think it's that. Honestly, I think it's because I'm quite a lot like my mum and he doesn't have any time for her at all. It feels like he just doesn't like me, tbh. He's said things in the past that have upset me so much, really hurtful things, like when he told me that nobody wants to talk to me in the family because I never say anything worthwhile, or once I tried to sort out a fight we were having by going to talk to him about it calmly and he blew his lid and started yelling that I haven't changed since I was a kid and that I think the world owes me a living. And then he acts like nothing happened, like he doesn't even realise why I'm upset. But I think it's all because the most helpful ways I've found to sorting things out are how my mum deals with things, and because I act a lot like her and he hates her. It's not my fault and it makes me want to kick him for being a dickhead, but that's what I think it is.
It comes to the same thing, he does not know the new and young-adult Indja very well. He still thinks that you haven't changed since you were a kid. And apparently he has a different picture in his mind than actually how you are, so he keeps misjudging/misunderstanding your points and behaviours. Unfortunately that is something done by most of the parents
And as for you reminding him of your mother, well that's a curse for the divorced parents, they have to remember their exes each time they have an arguement with the child, because they remember their exes mostly with such negative sides and experiences. You know when you achieve something such as a graduation or starting a family, they boast saying such things "of course she's capable of doing it she's my daughter, she took after me, she's totally like when i was younger, etc.", but when you disappoint them or disagree with them all they say is "where did you learn to be so disrespectful, you are as irresponsible as your mother/father, you totally are his/her daughter".
Seriously, people tend to think that the kids need to be taken to a therapist when their parents break up, but most kids deal with it pretty much better than their parents do.
@Auds, please make sure your tension stays in its normal setting. Other than that, i hope and guess you can deal with the other symptoms for you will be taking them pretty soonish.