Ive just read that "friendzone" is a sexist term. In the same thread, Ive read that guys who are friendzoned and the "mr. nice guys" are dudes that only want to trade attention and care for sex. And that they DO think this is a trade good. Wonderful how concepts changes over the years.
The first time I read the term "friendzone" and "mr. nice guys" these were terms that would refer to people who would be more introvert and get closer to people they would like something more than only friendship, but then would become "too friend" for the other side have any kind of sexual interest. And because of this issue, would get frustrated over the others' choice regarded their partners: if (s)he is that bad and what (s)he does really hurts you, why the fuck are you still with him?!?!?
but I guess things had changed. or people never really understood introverted personalities and the concept changed over misinterpreted behavious/situations involving friendzoning.
Facebook, keep amazing me.
Ive been told by a girl I really liked for a awhile that I was always at her "friend zone" line. So, was she being sexist? I don't think so. http://wtfniceguys.tumblr.com/post/15207397262/delacroix-imnotyogi-toptumbles-even-worse
"But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from." -- funny stuff I never really thought that after being reject, but in one particular case everyone, including a girl, thought the girl was really interested on me too. But she wasnt. And I was starting to write about this episode of my teenagehood but fuck it! It is too much damn boring. And, in the end, what matters was that I did not fall into any stereotype of a fuckable guy.
Also from the same commenter:
"we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection." - I love generalization!!! ^^
She may not know, but loads of "Mr. Nice Guys" are told the same shit over and over and over. And think about the same issues. "You werent manly enough!!" "You were/are too insecure" "You should lose some weight" "You are too thin, you need to grow some muscles" "You are too short" "Your clothes are shitty" "You've said the wrong stuff to her" "You've displayed too much affection" "You gave too much attention" 'You aimed too high" "You are not her type" "Women like bad boys, you are too nice".
Alas, havent seen anything wrong on that display. What would she have said if this post was saying "the guy who ... I am like her sister. I'm fucked forever."? Im getting really pissed off over this pseudo-feminism and generalized sexism.