So I was watching frontline with my Dad and my good friend was on talking about homophobic bullying.
My dad turns to me and asks, with genuine care, "You never get hassled do you".
I replied "Nope" with confidence.
This was kind of a double edged sword, on one hand it's nice that he cares.
But then again, I came out almost 3 years ago and this is the first time since then my being gay has ever been mentioned.
It's a little late to start showing an interest now, I have my home life and my other life and I've learned to live that way.
It means that I often don't tell my parents the truth, for instance I'm not just staying "with a friend", I'm staying with a guy I'm seeing. I'm going out to a club, not specifically a gay club.
Of course eventually I'll want to introduce them to a boyfriend, but their neglect (for lack of a better word) of this part of me has caused me to separate this part of me from them completely. Frankly I think my romantic life and sexuality constitutes none of their business, I don't think it concerns them.
They chose to ignore it while they could have paid it attention, now to want to know about it would feel suffocating.