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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #15 on: September 02, 2012, 11:21:59 PM »

Attractiveness is very subjective! Being "movie star" attractive is very physically and emotionally tiring because there's a ton pressure to STAY that way. If a person whom you think is perfect-looking doesn't have a lot of insecurities of their own, they're probably kind of a sociopath and mayyyybe should be avoided anyway. You probably look a lot more healthy than those Barbies and Ken dolls. It's definitely easier said than done, but if someone isn't satisfied with your company because you don't look like Brad Pitt or Keanu Reeves, it's not worth talking to them.
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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #16 on: September 03, 2012, 04:59:18 PM »

I feel like a cheese ball for saying this, but it's GREAT to be different. Looks mean pepper jack shit in the long run.

You feel like a cheese ball?

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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #17 on: September 03, 2012, 07:19:46 PM »

concerning the attractiveness being all subjective thing:

to be fair, we do get used to images we see around us and people around us that imitate them and each other, so even if we don't like the standards that are being set it is hard to diverge from them and not feel a little strange...
(i went swimming last week with hairy legs for the first time, and even though i believe i have every right to do that and find hairy legs pretty in other women if i see them, it was a bit hard being exposed...)
that being said, from what i've seen, beautiful people (in a beauty standard way) doesn't equal happy people.




also, i just saw this:

http://www.chinasmack.com/2012/videos/chubby-taiwanese-teen-competes-in-body-building-competition.html

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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #18 on: September 03, 2012, 07:24:20 PM »

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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #19 on: September 03, 2012, 07:27:39 PM »



also, i just saw this:

http://www.chinasmack.com/2012/videos/chubby-taiwanese-teen-competes-in-body-building-competition.html
that's what they call "fat flabby"?! no wonder...

In body building terms I can see their point. I don't think he's fat but to be a successful body builder you have to put a wee bit of effort in.
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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #20 on: September 03, 2012, 07:35:24 PM »



also, i just saw this:

http://www.chinasmack.com/2012/videos/chubby-taiwanese-teen-competes-in-body-building-competition.html
that's what they call "fat flabby"?! no wonder...

In body building terms I can see their point. I don't think he's fat but to be a successful body builder you have to put a wee bit of effort in.

also, on average, people there are much smaller and thinner than in europe, so to them it probably doesn't look as crazy calling him fat as it looks to us...
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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #21 on: September 03, 2012, 07:37:01 PM »



also, i just saw this:

http://www.chinasmack.com/2012/videos/chubby-taiwanese-teen-competes-in-body-building-competition.html
that's what they call "fat flabby"?! no wonder...

In body building terms I can see their point. I don't think he's fat but to be a successful body builder you have to put a wee bit of effort in.

those kids are scary, all body builders scare me actually. i feel like they're always just about to explode
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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #22 on: September 07, 2012, 08:30:13 PM »

Dear All,

Thanks a lot for your great responses....

I must admit that part of the reason why I felt intimidated by the beautiful, wealthy people of Bondi is that I know very few people here (having only recently moved) and all I have to go on is first impressions of the place. However I have made steps to try and sort out my self esteem, an ongoing effort but with some improvement.
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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #23 on: September 08, 2012, 03:24:14 AM »

Dear All,

Thanks a lot for your great responses....

I must admit that part of the reason why I felt intimidated by the beautiful, wealthy people of Bondi is that I know very few peop

le here (having only recently moved) and all I have to go on is first impressions of the place. However I have made steps to try and sort out my self esteem, an ongoing effort but with some improvement.
Well very good luck to you. I hope you meet some people there and it makes it a little less daunting.
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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #24 on: September 10, 2012, 09:39:07 PM »

Sometimes I feel fabulous, other times I feel ugly. It's mainly my struggle with my body image. Years of being chubby and having a fat family tell me how ugly fat is. Well.... even after the 60 pounds were lost, I still feel uber ugly. Ironically, I love chubby guys.

But I've seen a picture of you before, Paul. I think you're sexy.
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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #25 on: September 11, 2012, 10:43:23 PM »

Paul is a good looking man.

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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #26 on: December 13, 2013, 09:34:27 AM »

I have a dissonance from my body, so I'm not too concerned about how it looks(The exception being that I make sure I don't gain weight.) . Aesthetically pleasing is always nice, but I'm not lusting after being beautiful.
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Re: On Feeling Ugly....
« Reply #27 on: December 13, 2013, 03:47:50 PM »

Sometimes I feel fabulous, other times I feel ugly. It's mainly my struggle with my body image. Years of being chubby and having a fat family tell me how ugly fat is. Well.... even after the 60 pounds were lost, I still feel uber ugly. Ironically, I love chubby guys.

But I've seen a picture of you before, Paul. I think you're sexy.

Ha what about being too skinny? I've always been skinny and I can't help it. Especially girls can make very harsh comments about me, treating me like a girl (not being strong enough to do man-stuff).

I haven't had problems with my body but I am insecure about myself when it comes to the opposite sex. I've had a serious relationship in the past and I actually found it hard to believe she really liked me because she was so beautiful.

Also, I know I will be bald when I reach my 30's. That to me is the hardest part. My hair is the only thing I really like having. I would trade in a lot of stuff (I might even consider a hair transplant) to change this fact.
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