i must say, i vastly appreciate that you are a thoughtful enough person to actually explain what it is that's going on between the two of you instead of simply writing off the band as if it has already been decided upon. if you two mutually agree to break up, i don't blame you (and, to be honest, your solo project is better anyway; you're allowed to be serious and play slower songs, even if someone doesn't like play them live, which tends to kill the mood); it seems like you've been having a rough time for a while. and i know i'm coming off as bitter towards brian, but i guess that i am. after all the times my husband and i have seen you live, where you've consistently blown us away (blown-out vocal cords and all), for brian to claim that you "hate touring" seems absurd. hardships come about and people need to face them. it's the only way to reach a resolution.
at any rate, rock on.