So, are you gay? Are you LGBT, undecided or other?
I'm going to go with Niels and say I'm a can of beans Do you think these categories are useful or oppressive?
I think it's usefull to be able to shorthand it with gay or bisexual. (on a more grammar related note does it sounds wrong to people when "I'm lesbian" is said? shouldn't there be an 'a' in there?)
Gay (when applied to men) is a guy who likes guys, thats what I am.
Which is also why particularly femme guys don't do it for me, I like guys as in guyish guys.When did you first know you were gay?
Can't really say, to me it's always been this wayAre you in or out of the closet? If it's the latter then how did you come out?
Uh I guess the door is open but I'm like...sitting half way out.
My parents know and so do all my friends but with school people I just feel I don't need people being wary of me for that reason, which would happen.
Either way I don't include it as part of my introduction.Also, how did people react and what changes took place in your life (if any) when you did come out?
There a lot of "well duh" from my friends, my mom wanted me to go to counseling.
What was fantastic was the ability to help my best friend come out, now our other friend say that we won't shut up about being gay. Her being gay made me more confident in that side of me and realise that if i were straight life would be a fuckload different and I like my life.What does being gay mean to you? Do you 'wear' it? and How much does it define your personality?
Well I guess if it's a part of me it's a part of my personality but really I don't feel like I over play it or make it super obvious. If somebody is mean to me I won't automatically think it's because I'm gay.
I see it more so as a quality, I like apples...and men.Do you fall into, break or try to avoid gay stereotypes?
Well stereotypes are kind of there from experience, I can be pretty stereotypical at times like with my music taste or such.
What angers me is how I feel my mom assumes that with my being gay I will
turn in to some sort of flaming queen covered in body glitter.
I don't try to break stereotypes but i don't try to fit into them.
I try to be and if thats a stereotype then fuck it.Do you associate yourself with gay music and media like 'queercore'?
I actually listen to a fuck lot of queercore. (The butchies, Team Dresch, the cliks, sleater-kinney) but the music that would automatically be seen as gay, like Madonna or Kylie, is the type I'm not really into.
My general media influence tends to be more lesbian centered rather than gay male.
It seems that for gay men the stereotype is much more represented in media.
Like how they made Will from will and grace even gayer as the seasons went on.
But if you watch the L word or sugar rush it seems to stress the point that gay can come from all walks of life.Do you have people you look up to in the LGBT community and if so, why?
Woooh Ellen!! But seriously I don't think I look up to anyone, people might say the admire a persons courage to come out but if I did it then why should I admire them for doing what I have done?Have you ever encountered prejudice? If so, what kind?
Not really, I do have a friend who often stops in a sentence when he was about to describe something as gay or use the word fag but I actually find it hilarious how he tip toes.