Not sure if this was discussed already, does anyone have that group of coworkers, or family members, or classmates, or friends, or group of people, who think it's okay to make jokes about gay people or say, 'That's so gay.', or 'What a faggot!', around you because you're their gay friend?
I understand that some gay people don't find any gay joke offensive, or even the word 'faggot' offensive, but I do. In some light. When another gay person uses the f-word in a none hateful manner then I'm fine with it, unless they're saying it to call on someone who may or may not be in the closet I'm not cool with that at all. But anyway, I was just wondering if any gay or straight person that know a group of people who think it's okay to make anti-gay remarks because you're gay, or you're a super supportive person.
Today at work I was with my manager and other co-worker and we were in the back discussing kids or something, and my manager says to me that I can't have kids. My co-worker, by the way, is a lesbian who we'll call Karen; we're the two rainbows at work as everyone likes to refer to us. Anywho, I explain to my manager that I can in fact have kids because I have reproductive organs just like him and can therefore have children if I find a consenting adult and he was texting the whole time and ignored me. Bollocks. Afterward he said to me, "You know, Karen never complains when we make jokes." And I'm standing there thinking, "Maybe because Karen's too nice to say anything back to you, or maybe because Karen has a line where your jokes are okay and my line is just a little bit farther from hers and therefore your jokes are actually offensive to me. I don't know, maybe because one joke is funny to someone else and really offensive to someone else. I don't know, just a thought." But I said something else and I can't remember it. And I think he thinks it's okay because he makes fun of himself for being Asian. You know when someone makes some sort of derogatory term but justifies it by trying to make light of a discriminative term against themselves? Like, "Yeah, I can make jokes about black people and Muslims and other minorities but only because I'm a minority, too!" No.
Thoughts?
Sorry this is so long.
