^Try being a girl who firmly and fiercly identifies as a bisexual feminist, while still not being out to most of her family, being in a very lovely heterosexual relationship, and wanting nothing much more than a babies, a nice house, and to spend her days knitting and sewing and possibly milking a cow. I'm perfectly comfortable with myself, but other people seem to have real difficulty accepting that.
you and i had a conversation once about how lesbians have tried to 'claim' you, and refused to accept you as a bisexual with a major in boy.
i can't hang in large groups of lesbians, myself. i smoke too much, i eat meat, i like porn, i'm anti-political, and most of my friends are dudes. secretly they love the motorcycle, but there's a lot of butt-hurt in lesbian communities, also.
really, it's everywhere. i guess skin color does stroll before other less obvious traits, but having visible tattoos adds pretty much the same stigma. i've walked by women who clutch their purses and children to them and wondered wtf? till i realized what i look like to them.